Making Friends with Grief

In this walk and conversation, coach and musician Nico opens up about losing his wife, Ingrid, to cancer and what grief has looked like in the years since her passing in 2014. He talks about how the grieving began long before she died, how peace eventually found him, and what it means to make friends with your grief instead of trying to escape it.

This is not a story about fixing pain. It is about facing it, feeling it, and learning to live beside it. Nico reminds us that grief is not something we get over. It changes shape, softens, and moves through us like waves. Sometimes it still knocks us down, but over time, it also teaches us tenderness and strength.

If you have ever lost someone or walked alongside someone who has, this conversation will meet you where you are. It speaks to love, letting go, and the quiet courage it takes to keep going.

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Timestamps00:00 – Talking about Ingrid’s passing00:56 – Grief beginning during her illness01:12 – Grieving before death and finding peace03:00 – The waves and triggers of grief04:14 – Facing emotions and finding relief

Photos by Rod Janz and @nicogroove on InstagramMusic licensed via Epidemic Sound

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