Projection doesn't announce itself. It never says "I am afraid of this thing so I am going to put it on you." It just quietly rewrites the story until you genuinely believe the problem is out there — when the whole time it was in the six inches between your ears.

Projection is just insecurity with an alibi. You take the thing you can't face about yourself and put it onto someone else so you don't have to look at it directly. In recovery it shows up constantly — and it's one of the hardest things to catch because by definition you can't see it clearly while you're doing it.

This week the conversation gets into what that actually looks like from the inside. How many times in active addiction were we accusing people of things that were actually true about us? And how does that pattern show up now — even in sobriety — when the defenses are still running on autopilot?

We're forever becoming. And we're a masterpiece in the making.

The foxhole is open. Come as you are. 🎙️