Valences, Projections, and Projective Identification: We will explore these terms, how they relate to one another, and their impact on us and others. We discuss why we think it is important to know our valences, how and what we project onto others, and what they might be projecting onto us. We will talk about how this relates to our social locations, environments, histories, lineage, and our spiritual identities. We will also dive into the shadow side of knowing and naming valences and projections and how we often weaponize these to consciously and unconsciously keep ourselves and others in boxes. Lastly, we share some of our personal histories and experiences as we work to join around these topics and offerings.