Mystery writer Sophie Hannah turns to untangle the mystery of self-talk behind grudge creation in her acclaimed book How to Hold a Grudge (2018). Sophie and I return to grudges to lay out how at least some of us can be happier by making good grudge stories. We compare Ekhart Tolle's version of story-telling, and consider the roles of memory and boundary setting. Finally we segue to inner dialogues about loss and worst-case scenarios that enable better decisions and happier lives. And we discuss murder in fiction and the fiction of tea. She is a British crime writer after all!

We draw on three of her books: How to hold a Grudge, The Double-Best Method, and Happiness, a Mystery.

Sophie recommends... The Life Coach School podcast. 'The biggest and best repository of wisdom I've ever discovered. Brooke Castillo is a genius whose philosophy of life has been transformative for me - I love her!' 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-life-coach-school-podcast/id870239631

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