In this weeks conversation, Shaela Bothwell shares her journey of picking herself back up after a 5-year toxic relationship, the lessons this time provided, and her courage to try again. She focused on herself, prioritized her family and friendships, and took time to be alone with her thoughts.

After two to three years, she intentionally started dating again with a different mindset. She learned to recognize her patterns of seeking high highs and low lows, and how to allow herself to be vulnerable in a healthy relationship. Trusting herself and her partner was a challenge to which she found that making a pro and con list opened her eyes to what was in front of her-someone who met all her values. She discusses the importance of developing core values and recognizing red flags in a relationship. Shaela emphasizes the need to choose oneself and not sacrifice personal goals and happiness for the sake of a relationship.

SoothingH.E.R hosts, and Shaela extend encouragement and advice for listeners who are healing from a breakup and looking to trust and love again.

Main Takeaways:

1. Focus on yourself and prioritize your own growth after a toxic relationship.

2. Recognizing red flags and trusting one's instincts is crucial to avoid toxic relationships.

3. Choosing oneself and not sacrificing personal goals and happiness is important in any relationship.

4. Take time to be alone and reflect on your thoughts and feelings.

5. When you're ready to date again, approach it with intention and look for someone who aligns with your values.

6. Recognize and break patterns of relationships you normally seek but doesn’t serve you

7. Trust yourself and be open to vulnerability in a healthy relationship.

8. Healing from a breakup takes time and self-reflection, but there is hope for finding love and trusting again.