In this Holy Homo Hangout Hour, Kari and Elise continue their relationship mini-series by diving into toxic relationships, especially the subtle, covert kind that makes you feel like you’re losing your mind. They unpack love bombing, hidden emotional manipulation, and the “small” comments and behaviors that slowly chip away at your confidence (until you’re monitoring moods, walking on eggshells, and blaming yourself for everything).

They also talk about why toxic dynamics can feel addictive, how religious conditioning (forgiveness without change, not trusting your gut, “unconditional love”) can keep people stuck, and the big takeaway: when you’re in survival mode, you can’t be your best partner because you’re surviving. This episode focuses on the toxic patterns and the red flags; the healing + safe relationship conversation is coming in the final installment.