Happily Ever After... What Now?

So many of us have been taught to push through, carry it all, and put ourselves last… especially as women and mothers.

But what if your body isn’t the problem?
What if it’s actually the guide?

In this episode, I’m joined by my coach Debbie Lim of Debbie Lim Creative to explore what it really looks like to move from burnout into embodiment.

We talk about reclaiming your energy, learning to listen to your body, and why having it all doesn’t mean you have to hold it all.

Debbie shares her own journey from burnout and disconnection to coming home to her body, and how that shifted everything — her energy, her work, and the way she lives her life.

Inside this conversation, we explore:

•  Why burnout isn’t just physical (and what’s really going on underneath) 
•  The connection between shame, shadow work, and exhaustion 
•  What it means to reclaim your “sovereign energy” 
•  How creative expression can help you process and release emotions 
•  Why rest, play, and slowing down are actually part of healing 
•  The truth about “feminine vs masculine energy” (and what most people get wrong) 

If your life looks good on paper but feels heavy, disconnected, or exhausting… this episode will open up a new way forward.

This is your reminder:
>> You didn’t come here just to survive…
>> You came here to feel, to create, and to live in full colour.

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

What happens when the system you trusted no longer fits? When your body says no—but the world says yes?

In this episode of Happily Ever After.. What Now?, I’m joined by Denise Graham, an In-Bodied Horsewoman, movement medicine artist, and founder of Embody the Herd. We explore what it means to truly trust your body wisdom which is key to reconnect with your body, break free from outdated systems, and reconnect with the wild, wise, full-colour version of yourself.

Denise doesn’t just teach embodiment—she lives it. After leaving her career in mainstream education, she followed her body’s knowing toward a life grounded in somatic awareness, nature-based learning, and the deep, honest feedback loop of horse herd dynamics.

If you’ve ever felt like your life has lost its colour or you’re navigating a “what now?” moment of your own—this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

💬 In this episode, we talk about:
- Denise’s “What Now?” moment during the COVID mandates—and how her body led the way
- What horses can teach us about emotional integrity and nervous system regulation
- Why communication starts with the body (not the mouth)
- How Denise supports women experiencing burnout, disconnection, and deep transition
- The philosophy behind her Nature School and why kids (and adults) need unlearning too
- Reclaiming your body wisdom—through movement, cycles, and embodied boundaries as well as how to listen to your body
- Her best and worst advice (spoiler: follow the feel might change everything)

00:00 Introduction: When Life No Longer Fits
00:23 Meet Denise Graham: Embodiment Coach and Horse Wisdom
02:29 Denise's 'What Now' Moment: A Personal Transformation
05:21 The Wisdom of Horses: Healing and Embodiment
13:52 Practical Embodiment: Daily Practices and Insights
23:55 Nature School and Unlearning: Trusting Ourselves
33:53 What More Women Need to Know
37:39 Final Thoughts and Advice: Follow the Feel

Connect with Denise Graham:
Want to learn more about Denise’s work or join her women’s circles?
You can find her here:
🔗 Website: www.embodytheherd.com
📸 Instagram: @embodytheherd
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/embodytheherd

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

Positive Body Image and Sexual Trauma Healing with Nikki Lanchbery.

What happens when the fairytale ends and you're left holding the pieces of a story you never asked for? In this episode of 'Happily Ever After... What Now?', host Kiri Honey, a communication coach and creative guide, chats with Nikki Lanchbery, a Yogi, Body Acceptance advocate and founder of  @invitethecalm

Nikki shares her journey of overcoming trauma, particularly sexual assault, and how she helps others reconnect with their bodies through yoga, mindfulness, and compassionate community.

We discuss the challenges of body acceptance, the impact of societal beauty standards, and practical steps for navigating life after trauma.

Nikki offers insights into her personal experiences and provides actionable advice for those struggling with self-blame, anger, and the journey toward self-love and body positivity.

00:00 Introduction to Today's Topic
00:11 Meet Nikki Lanchbery: Yogi and Advocate
01:52 Nikki's Journey to Body Acceptance
02:04 The Concept of Clothes-Free Communities
05:20 Challenging Beauty Standards
10:45 Navigating Sexual Assault: Nikki's Story
25:04 Navigating Emotions: Healthy Practices
25:46 Embodiment Practices for Self-Acceptance
27:39 Rest and Nourishment: Key to Healing
27:57 Invite the Calm: Overcoming Trauma
31:39 Reclaiming Joy and Pleasure
39:35 Best and Worst Advice: Personal Reflections
42:46 Body Acceptance and Self-Love
47:48 Final Thoughts and Farewell

📖 Read Nikki’s Blog Post mentioned in the video here: https://www.invitethecalm.com/post/seeing-yourself

If you’d like to learn more about the Retreats Nikki runs visit: https://www.invitethecalm.com/retreats

Follow Nikki  @invitethecalm on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@invitethecalm
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When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

Welcome to Season 2 of Happily Ever After.. What Now? 

In this episode, host Kiri Honey explores the complex world of dieting, food relationships, and body image with expert guest Lauren Leitner, a certified health and wellness coach. 

Lauren shares her personal journey from restrictive eating, food guilt, and body shaming to finding freedom through plant-based nutrition, mindfulness, and movement. 

The discussion sheds light on why traditional diets fail, how to build a joyful and sustainable relationship with food, and the importance of embracing change with curiosity and compassion. 

They delve into practical tips for reconnecting with your body, experimenting in the kitchen, and fostering a positive mindset. This episode is a must-watch for anyone tired of the diet cycle and ready to reclaim their health and happiness.

Want to learn more from Lauren Leitner? Download her free guide to Unlock Body Confidence at https://laurenleitner.com/pwr-free-guide/

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

Discover why fun is crucial for happiness and mental health in this episode with Dr. Mike Rucker, author of The Fun Habit. In this episode of 'Happily Ever After, What Now?', Kiri Honey speaks with Dr. Mike Rucker, the author of 'The Fun Habit'. 

They dive into the science and importance of fun, discussing how to incorporate more joy into daily life and the positive impacts this can have on mental health and relationships. 

Dr. Rucker shares his personal journey and professional insights on how to balance work and life to prioritize fun, and why this is crucial for long-term happiness and well-being. 

Be sure to stick around to the end for a FUN alternative to strict routines and a great way to build enjoyable habits that last! 

00:00 Rediscovering Fun: Introduction
00:20 Meet Dr. Mike Rucker: The Fun Expert
02:24 The Science of Fun and Positive Psychology
04:14 Personal Journey: Overcoming Adversity
05:20 The Importance of Fun in Daily Life
07:28 Practical Tips for Integrating Fun
12:18 Balancing Responsibilities and Joy
18:18 Creating Lasting Joyful Memories
32:59 Addressing Common Misconceptions
43:12 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Want to learn more about Mike Rucker? Find all things Mike and The Fun Habit at  https://michaelrucker.com/

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

In this episode, Kiri Honey, a confident communication coach, introduces a powerful communication technique you may have heard of before. 
She explains 10 different reasons why using I-Statements can be so powerful in transforming the way you communicate with your partner. 

Kiri also provides real-life examples and situations where I-statements can be applied, showing how this simple tool can make a significant impact on your relationship. 

Additionally, Kiri shares ways to express appreciation and affection using I-statements and invites viewers to download her free guide, '5 Keys to Relationship Revival', for further support which you can download at www.kirihoney.com/5habitsfreebie

00:00 Introduction to a Magical Communication Tool
01:12 The Power of I-Statements
02:37 10 Reasons to Use I-Statements
06:53 When and Where to Use I-Statements
13:38 Using I-Statements to Show Appreciation

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
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2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

In this episode, Kiri Honey, a confident communication coach for women, explores the concept of strength through vulnerability and femininity, challenging traditional notions of power that emphasize constant resilience and control. 

She discusses the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies to improve personal relationships and prevent burnout. 
Key points include understanding the traits of masculine and feminine energies, recognizing how an imbalance affects relationships, and actionable strategies to reconnect with one's feminine side. 

Practical exercises and journaling prompts are provided to guide listeners toward fostering emotional intimacy, conflict resolution through empathy, and achieving a healthier emotional balance. 

Kiri ends with advice on daily practices to enhance feminine energy, emphasizing the benefits of resting and recharging to prevent overload and improve overall well-being.

00:00 Redefining Strength: Embracing Vulnerability
00:23 The Impact of Overcompensation on Relationships
01:32 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy
03:38 The Imbalance in Relationships
06:37 The Importance of Emotional Intimacy
08:04 Softness in Conflict Resolution
09:27 Avoiding Burnout in Relationships
10:44 Surrendering to Flow
11:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
12:04 Daily Practices to Reconnect with Feminine Energy

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

In this episode of the newly rebranded 'Happily Ever After, What Now?', host Kiri Honey interviews Dr. Tanya Berfield, a women's transformation and empowerment coach. 

Dr. Berfield shares her personal journey from feeling unfulfilled to finding empowerment. They discuss the importance of self-care, practical ways to prioritize well-being, and how effective communication and gratitude can transform relationships. 

Dr. Berfield also offers a sneak peek into her upcoming Empower Her Self-Care Summit, which features twelve expert speakers covering various aspects of self-care. 

The episode dives deep into the challenges women face in prioritizing self-care, the role of mindset and expectations in relationships, and practical tips for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling marriage.

00:00 Introduction to Empowerment and Self-Care
01:32 Meet Dr. Tanya Berfield
02:06 Tanya's Journey to Empowerment
04:36 The Importance of Self-Care
07:49 Communication in Relationships
12:07 Maintaining a Strong Marriage
19:48 Dinner Dilemma: Handling Disappointment with Grace
22:02 The Power of Gratitude in Relationships
26:56 Embracing Self-Care: A Personal Journey
28:32 Empower Her Self-Care Summit: What to Expect
32:58 Overcoming Roadblocks to Self-Care
36:33 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Register for Dr Tanya's Empower Her Self-Care Summit by visiting: www.DrTanyaB.com/summit

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

How to stop being a victim of your emotions

In this episode of 'Happily Ever After the Affair,' Kiri Honey discusses how to embrace the power of your emotions rather than falling victim to them. She addresses common emotional reactions, the importance of emotional awareness, and provides actionable steps to use emotions as a source of strength and wisdom. 

Kiri also shares insights on overcoming fear, reframing emotions, and developing emotional honesty, emphasizing the overall goal of moving from a victim mindset to one of empowerment. This episode includes practical tips and a free guide to help women rebuild relationships and boost their confidence.

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Emotional Vulnerability

00:16 Recognizing Emotional Triggers

02:37 The Impact of Negative Thought Patterns

03:18 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

04:13 Embracing Emotional Awareness

04:27 Harnessing the Power of Emotions

06:44 Creative Practices for Emotional Expression

07:14 Free Guide: Reviving Relationships

08:16 Final Tips for Emotional Empowerment

09:26 Conclusion: Moving Towards Emotional Strength

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

In this episode, Kiri Honey, a confident communication coach, talks about the key to reviving and strengthening relationships and discuss common relationship challenges such as miscommunication, monotony, and lack of intimacy while offering practical advice on how to bring the spark back into your partnership. 

She also introduces her free guide, '5 Keys to Relationship Revival,' to help viewers take actionable steps toward a fulfilling and happy relationship. 

00:00 Introduction to Creativity in Relationships

01:18 Common Relationship Challenges

03:27 The Power of Creativity

04:32 Personal Story: Rediscovering Creativity

07:38 The Importance of Individual Creativity

10:40 Final Thoughts and Free Guide

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/