Happiness with Jess

In this episode, Jess is  talking about the connection between self-trust, confidence, and consistency — and why it might be the piece you've been missing.

She shares how repeatedly breaking promises to yourself, setting unrealistic expectations, and letting your inner critic run the show can impact the way you see yourself. 

Jess also talks about the difference between giving yourself grace and unintentionally talking yourself out of the things that matter to you.

Because building self-trust doesn't mean following through perfectly or forcing yourself to push through everything. It's learning to make realistic commitments, recognize when you need to adjust, and trust yourself to come back when life gets messy.

In this episode, Jess talks about:

• Why self-trust is the foundation for confidence and consistency
• How the promises you make to yourself shape the way you see yourself
• The sneaky ways your inner critic can show up — even when it sounds like it's giving you permission to rest
• The difference between breaking a promise and intentionally renegotiating one
• How unrealistic expectations can undermine your self-trust
• Practical ways to start building confidence by showing up for yourself

You don't have to get everything right, never lose motivation, or follow through perfectly to become someone you can count on. You just have to start learning to trust yourself to figure it out, adjust, and come back. 💛

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉⁠https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram⁠ 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram: 

👉 ⁠@happ.i.ness.jess⁠

In this episode of Happiness with Jess, health coach Jess explores why so many women struggle to prioritize themselves—even when they know exactly what they need to feel better.

For women who are balancing work, family, relationships, household responsibilities, and their own health, self-care can start to feel like just another thing on an already endless to-do list.

Jess explores why the solution isn’t always better time management or more discipline. Sometimes, taking better care of yourself means asking for help, delegating, letting go of perfectionism, and allowing other people to support you.

In this episode, Jess talks about:

• Why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable
• Why receiving support can be just as difficult as asking for it
• Why self-care doesn’t always mean adding another healthy habit
• Learning that being independent and being supported can coexist

Because sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for yourself isn’t another healthy habit.

Sometimes it’s asking for help.

Jess also shares a personal story about learning to receive support and why letting someone else take care of you can be an important part of your health, relationships, and personal growth.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉⁠https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram⁠ 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram: 

👉 ⁠@happ.i.ness.jess⁠

In this episode, Jess recaps one of the craziest hikes she’s ever done: 17 miles through Yosemite National Park to the top of Half Dome.

After having Half Dome on her bucket list for years, Jess unexpectedly got the opportunity to tackle it this year—and she’s sharing the full adventure, from getting their permits to climbing the infamous cables, and everything that happened along the way.

More than just a hiking recap, this experience left Jess feeling incredibly grateful for her body and its strength and capability. It was a reminder that taking care of your body isn't just about how it looks—it’s about fueling it, challenging it, and being able to experience the things you've dreamed about.

And, naturally, Jess is already thinking about what adventure might be next.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉⁠https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram⁠ 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram: 

👉 ⁠@happ.i.ness.jess⁠

What if the problem isn’t that you lack motivation or discipline…but that your habits just aren’t supported enough?

In this episode, Jess breaks down the 3 S’s of consistency: Systems, Structures, and Scheduling. Rather than relying on motivation to maintain healthy habits, she explores how to create routines that support you through busy seasons, low-energy days, travel, stress, changing schedules, and all the other ways real life likes to get in the way. 

Jess also talks about why we so often build routines for our ideal life instead of our real life. Because if your routine only works when everything goes perfectly…is it really a sustainable routine?

You’ll learn how to:

• Create systems that make your habits easier and require less motivation
• Build a realistic baseline so one hard week doesn’t turn into starting over
• Use scheduling to actually make space for the things that matter
• Create lower-bar options for the days when you’re tired, busy, or just not feeling it
• Plan for the interruptions instead of treating them like failures
• Build routines around your real life—not your ideal self
• AndJess brings it all back to the Bounce Back Rate—because consistency isn’t about never getting off track. It’s about getting better at finding your way back.

The goal isn’t to create a routine you can follow perfectly. It’s to build one you can return to when life gets in the way.

If you’re tired of constantly starting over and want to build healthy habits that actually fit your life, this episode is for you. 

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉⁠https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram⁠ 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram: 

👉 ⁠@happ.i.ness.jess⁠

What if consistency isn’t about staying “on track” all the time but about how quickly you can find your way back?

In this episode, Jess introduces the Bounce Back Rate—a different way to think about consistency, setbacks, and healthy habits.

Life is going to interrupt your routine. Vacations, busy seasons, illness, celebrations, stress, and unexpected challenges are part of life. The goal isn’t to never step away from your healthy habits. It’s learning how to come back without guilt, all-or-nothing thinking, or starting over.

Jess shares three practical ways to improve your bounce back rate:

• Make your restart realistic
• Focus on showing up, not perfection
• Celebrate recoveries, not just streaks

Because consistency isn’t about never stepping away. It’s about learning how to come back.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

In this episode, Jess is  joined by Barbara McAfee—master voice coach, author,  keynote speaker, and singer-songwriter. For more than 30 years, Barbara has helped people reconnect with their authentic voice—not just to become better communicators, but to become more fully themselves.

When you hear voice coach, you might think of singing lessons or public speaking. But Barbara McAfee's work goes far deeper than that.

Barbara shares how our voices are shaped by the stories we've carried since childhood, why so many of us learned to stay quiet, hide parts of ourselves, or believe we don't have the right to speak, and how reclaiming our voice can become a powerful path toward healing, confidence, and self-expression.

In this episode, they discuss: 

• How childhood experiences shape the way we use our voice
• Barbara's Five Elements of Vocal Intelligence: Air, Earth, Fire, Water, and Metal
• What your tone may reveal about you
• The healing power of singing—and why it belongs to all of us, not just performers
• Simple ways to begin reconnecting with your own voice

Whether you've ever struggled to speak up, worried about taking up too much space, or felt disconnected from your authentic self, this conversation is a beautiful reminder that finding your voice isn't about becoming louder—it's about becoming more fully you.

Connect with Barbara here 

👉https://www.barbaramcafee.com/

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Five years ago, Jess took a leap and started her coaching practice with a simple mission: to help people build healthier, happier lives. Looking back, she never imagined how much the journey would transform her too.

In this special five-year anniversary episode, Jess reflects on the biggest lessons she's learned—not just as a coach, but as a person. She shares how her understanding of health has evolved beyond habits, why confidence has come to mean something entirely different, how learning to be authentically seen has changed her life, what entrepreneurship has taught her about trusting the timing, and why success today looks far different than it did when she first began.

More than a celebration of a business milestone, this episode is a reflection on growth, purpose, and the power of inner transformation. If you've ever felt like you're still becoming the person you're meant to be, this conversation will remind you that the most meaningful change often happens from the inside out.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Struggling with body image, negative self-talk, or feeling like your worth is tied to your weight? In this episode, Jess sits down with nationally recognized body image expert, certified intuitive eating counselor, and author Anne Poirier to explore what it really takes to heal your relationship with your body.

After overcoming years of body shame and disordered eating, Anne has become a leading voice in the body neutrality movement, helping people find freedom from dieting, food guilt, and the constant pressure to change their bodies.

Together, Jess and Anne discuss the connection between the inner critic, body image, and eating behaviors, why body neutrality can be a more sustainable goal than body positivity, and how to begin separating your self-worth from the number on the scale. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

-What the "body bully" is and how it fuels negative self-talk

-How your inner critic influences eating habits and body image

-The difference between body positivity and body neutrality

-Practical ways to detach your self-worth from your weight

-Anne's perspective on GLP-1 medications and body image

-Why self-acceptance and personal growth can exist at the same time

If you're working to improve your body image, heal your relationship with food, overcome your inner critic, or practice intuitive eating, this conversation will leave you with practical tools and a renewed sense of compassion for yourself.

Connect with Anne Poirier

👉https://www.instagram.com/annepoirier11author/ 

👉 https://linktr.ee/annepoirier11 

 Body Confidence E-Book 

👉https://shapingperspectives.com/confidence/ 

The Body Neutrality Playbook

👉https://www.amazon.com/Body-Neutrality-Playbook-Activities-self-acceptance-ebook/dp/B0CZLGKKWR/ref=sr_1_1? 

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

In this deeply personal Father's Day episode, Jess shares her experience of growing up without her father present and reflects on the ways that absence shaped her identity, relationships, and sense of self.

She opens up about the wounds that developed in the absence of a consistent father figure—including abandonment, low self-worth, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, and looking outside herself for validation, love, and belonging.

Jess also shares her healing journey and the tools that have helped her reconnect with herself over the years, including traditional talk therapy, somatic therapy, mindset and subconscious work through To Be Magnetic (TBM), grief work, humor, supportive relationships, and learning to meet the needs she once hoped others would fulfill.

This conversation is an honest reflection on what it means to grieve what you didn't receive, make sense of the patterns that emerged as a result, and slowly build a more compassionate relationship with yourself.

Whether you grew up without a father, experienced childhood abandonment, or recognize yourself in the patterns of seeking approval, fearing rejection, or struggling to feel fully chosen, this episode is a reminder that our wounds may influence us—but they don't have to define us. Healing is possible, and you're not alone in the process.

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:👉 ⁠@happ.i.ness.jess⁠

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

In this episode, Aaron Hendon joins the podcast to discuss mindfulness, meditation, burnout, nervous system regulation, and breaking free from hustle culture.

Aaron is a mindfulness teacher, transformational leader, successful real estate professional, host of the Mindful CEO podcast, certified meditation instructor, and author of the upcoming book, How to Live a Grateful Life in a Fucked Up World. With over 30 years of experience in leadership and personal transformation, he helps people create lasting change through mindfulness, self-awareness, and intentional living.

In this episode, Jess and Aaron discuss:

• Why meditation is actually training for the brain 
• Burnout, stress, and the impact of hustle culture 
• Nervous system regulation and reducing anxiety 
• How to become more focused, grounded, and present 
• The connection between mindfulness, leadership, and success 
• Why slowing down can actually help you make better decisions and more money 
• Gratitude and living intentionally in a chaotic world 

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, burnt out, or stuck in constant “go mode,” this conversation offers a grounded and practical perspective on creating more peace, clarity, and sustainable success.

Connect with Aaron:
👉Aaronhendon.com 

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess