Happy, Healthy & Healing

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I just need to get through this week,” “Once things settle down,” or “When the kids are older, I'll have more time”?

But what happens when there's always something else to get through?

In this episode, I'm exploring something I've been thinking about lately. 
How have we become so good at managing our lives, organising everything and working towards the next thing, that we sometimes forget to actually enjoy the life we're creating?

I also share an observation from my recent women's retreat, where even with everything taken care of, some women found it difficult to switch off. 
And it got me thinking about how accustomed we've become to always having something to do, think about or take responsibility for.

We talk about the constant pursuit of what's next, the difference between a full life and a fulfilling one, and why we keep postponing our enjoyment until everything is finally sorted.

Because what if everything never gets sorted? What if there's always another responsibility, goal or problem to solve?

And isn't the whole point of everything we're working so hard for to actually enjoy our lives along the way?

This episode is an invitation to question what you're waiting for and whether you're giving yourself permission to enjoy the life you have right now.

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What happens when the people you love don’t believe in the life you’re trying to build?

This week, after finding out our landlord is selling the house we’re living in, a few family conversations hit a nerve.

I was told I needed to “get back to reality,” get a normal job and stop living in a dream state.

And even though I know logically that someone else’s opinion doesn’t determine what I’m capable of, it hurt.

In this episode, I’m talking about why being misunderstood by the people closest to us can feel so confronting, how easily we can confuse someone else’s fears with facts, and what happens when the life you want doesn’t make sense to the people around you.

We also unpack family expectations, self-trust, inherited ideas of success and the difference between being realistic… and simply living inside somebody else’s version of reality.

Because someone can love you and still give you advice that would create a life you don’t want.

And they don’t have to understand your choices for you to be allowed to make them.

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Shame is one of the most common spirals I see in the women I work with… and most of the time, they don’t even realise that’s what’s happening.

It can sound like:
“I should know better.”
“Why am I like this?”
“I should be able to handle this.”
“I can’t believe I did that again.”
“What is wrong with me?”

We often think we’re dealing with overwhelm, overthinking, anger, procrastination or frustration. 

But when you start pulling the layers back, sometimes underneath all of it is the meaning we’ve attached to what happened and what we’ve decided it says about us.

In this episode, I’m talking about what shame actually looks like in everyday life, why it can feel so much like accountability, why high-functioning women can get caught in it so easily, and how one behaviour can quickly become a full-blown character assessment.

I also walk you through a practical way to interrupt the shame spiral without pretending the behaviour didn’t happen, bypassing responsibility or telling yourself something you don’t believe.

Because there’s a big difference between:

“I did something I don’t feel good about.”

and

“There is something wrong with me.”

And learning to separate the two can change a lot.

Want to connect?
Email me [email protected] or
find me on Instagram @the_stacey_allison_

I’ve been called a cult leader three separate times over the last couple of years.

And while I can laugh about it now, it got me thinking about how quickly people form opinions about who we are, what we do, and what our choices mean,  often without actually knowing the full story.

In this episode, I’m talking about perception, judgement and what happens when you start becoming a version of yourself that doesn’t automatically accommodate everyone else.

Because sometimes when you change, set a boundary, speak more honestly, want something different or stop making yourself easy for other people, not everyone is going to like it.

That doesn’t automatically mean you’re doing something wrong.

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking a decision because of what someone might think, trying to explain yourself so you’re not misunderstood, or wondering whether you’ve “changed too much”, this episode is for you.

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I’ve just wrapped my biggest retreat yet (August 2026) and in this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what actually goes into holding a space like this.

From accidentally overselling the retreat, to working with an incredible team, to making decisions in real time based on what was happening in the room, this weekend stretched me as a facilitator in ways I didn’t expect.

I share some of the themes that came up across the weekend, including control, high expectations, emotional regulation and the different ways our patterns can show up without us even realising it.

We also talk about why every retreat is completely different, why not everyone needs to have the same breakthrough, what I learnt from watching a room full of women experience things like breathwork for the first time, and why the parts that matter most often aren’t the ones you see in the photos.

A bit of a retreat recap, a bit of behind-the-scenes, and a lot of reflections from one of the most rewarding retreats I’ve facilitated so far.

In this episode, I’m joined by Chelsea Todd, a mother, coach, facilitator, writer and matrescence educator for a conversation about matrescence, the huge and often unspoken transition that happens when a woman becomes a mother.

We talk about why motherhood can change so much more than your day-to-day life.

Your identity can shift. Your relationships can change. Things from your own childhood can come back to the surface. You can love being a mum and still miss parts of who you were before.

Chelsea shares what matrescence actually is, why so many women find themselves thinking “I don’t know who I am anymore,” and how things like mum rage, overwhelm and feeling disconnected from yourself can sometimes be telling you there’s more going on underneath.

We also talk about reparenting, unmet needs, asking for support and learning how to make space for the woman you’re becoming alongside being Mum.

Chelsea shares her own experience of motherhood and the path that led her into this work, and I share some of my own experiences along the way too.

It’s a really honest conversation about a part of motherhood that I don’t think we talk about enough.

→Connect with Chelsea

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https://www.instagram.com/drchelseatodd/

Website:
https://drchelseatodd.com

→Free Resources From Chelsea

New Mama Nourishment Bundle
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Rage Ritual Bundle
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→Work With Chelsea

The Crowning — 1:1 Coaching
https://offers.drchelseatodd.com/thecrowning

Seasonal online circles + free events:
https://drchelseatodd.com/resources

→A Note on Maternal Mental Health

Anger can sometimes be associated with postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression and other perinatal mental health concerns. If you’re concerned about your mental health, please speak with a qualified health professional or seek professional support.

Australia — PANDA National Helpline: 1300 726 306
UK — PANDAS Foundation: https://pandasfoundation.org.uk/
Postpartum Support International: 1-800-944-4773

→Connect With Stacey

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Email: [email protected]
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You say you want less pressure, a quieter mind and more space to actually enjoy your life.

But then things finally calm down… and suddenly you’re checking emails, finding things to fix, starting another project, worrying about what you’ve forgotten or feeling strangely restless.

In this episode, Stacey explores why peace can sometimes feel more uncomfortable than pressure when you’ve spent years being the capable one.

The one who handles things.

The one people rely on.

The one who is always thinking three steps ahead.

Because sometimes we become so familiar with being needed, productive and under pressure that when there’s nothing urgent to solve, we don’t quite know what to do with ourselves.

This episode looks at the subtle ways we can create pressure without even realising it — in our work, relationships, businesses and everyday lives — and why slowing down isn’t always as simple as deciding you need more rest.

Stacey also leaves you with a handful of questions to help you notice what happens when life gets quiet, including whether you can actually let a good thing be good… without immediately looking for what needs fixing next.

If you’re the woman who keeps saying, “I just want my brain to be quiet,” this one might make you notice a few things.

Want to connect?

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Gratitude is powerful.

But what happens when “I should be grateful” becomes the sentence you use to shut down what you’re really feeling?

In this episode, Stacey explores the pressure women feel to appreciate the life they have, even when parts of it are no longer working.

Maybe you love your children deeply, but you’re exhausted by always being needed.

Maybe your partner is a good person, but you still feel lonely or unsupported.

Maybe you’re proud of the career or business you’ve built, but the way you’re living no longer feels sustainable.

And every time you acknowledge it, you quickly remind yourself that other people have it worse.

This isn’t an episode about being ungrateful or blowing up your life. 

It’s about recognising when gratitude has become a way of dismissing your needs, avoiding an uncomfortable conversation or convincing yourself to stay in a situation that needs to change.

Because you can appreciate what you have and still want something different.

You can be grateful for the life you’ve built and honest about the parts that no longer fit.

Both can be true.

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Or via email:
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If you’ve heard people talk about shadow work but still aren’t entirely sure what it is, or how it’s actually meant to help you.. this episode is a really beautiful place to start.

In this conversation, Stacey is joined by Jessicka Anne to explore shadow work, energetics, emotional integration and the parts of ourselves we often learn to suppress, avoid or judge.

Jess shares her own journey into this work, including how losing her husband changed the direction of her life and ultimately led her into deeper healing, energetic work and supporting other women through their own transformations.

Together, Stacey and Jess unpack what the “shadow” really is and why it isn’t simply about finding everything that is wrong with you. 

Often, our shadow holds the emotions, needs, desires and parts of our personality that we were taught were too much, unsafe or unacceptable.

When those parts are pushed down, they don’t simply disappear. 
They can show up through people-pleasing, emotional reactions, self-doubt, overthinking, burnout and repeating patterns we don’t fully understand.

This is a powerful conversation for anyone who is tired of surface-level advice and wants to understand more of what may be happening underneath their thoughts, behaviours and patterns.

Connect with Jessicka:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejessickaanne/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejessicaanne0
Website: https://jessickaanne.com/

Free gift - 11 shadow work prompts: 

http://jessickaanne.com/shadow-prompts

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In this episode, Stacey challenges the way we've been taught to think about resilience and explores the difference between building true emotional capacity and simply becoming better at tolerating stress, overwhelm and self abandonment.

She unpacks why so many successful women feel exhausted despite "coping," how your nervous system and window of tolerance influence the way you respond under pressure, and why being capable doesn't always mean you should keep carrying everything.

You'll learn:

•  Why resilience and survival aren't the same thing. 
•  The difference between increasing your capacity and increasing your tolerance for unhealthy situations. 
•  How your childhood patterns shape the way you respond to stress. 
•  What the Window of Tolerance is and why it matters. 
•  Practical ways to build genuine resilience without burning yourself out. 
•  The question every high-achieving woman needs to ask herself before taking on one more thing. 

If you've ever been told, "You're so strong," but secretly feel like you're running on empty, this conversation might completely change the way you think about resilience.

Because real resilience isn't about carrying more.

It's about staying connected to yourself while life gets hard.

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