Happy Thanksgiving my American friends!

I hope you are having the most wonderful holiday with family and friends.

I know most of you are ready for tomorrow! I know I am! I shouldn’t really be saying this but… I love shopping and black friday is rapidly becoming one of my favorite days, especially because since 2019 online shopping has become one of my favorites!

I hope you have planned for it and you have your budget all set and your debit card ready! I know I do!

But today I’d also like to talk to you about… family!

It seems appropriate since most of us are spending the day with family and that’s not always easy! If anything it can be very stressful and I kind of want to tie the 2 last episodes. If you haven’t had a chance to listen to them go ahead and do that so that this one makes more sense!

I talked about Mental Health and Overspending on gift giving to be liked!

It’s a proven fact that the Holidays are a tough season for a lot of us! It’s not a coincidence that financial stress, gift giving and family are all in the top reasons why most people struggle during the Holidays!

So, as we officially enter the Season, I thought it would be a good time to once again, give you permission, if you feel you need it, to spend only what you have, give only when you feel called to do so and set boundaries with family and friends so that the Holidays run a little smoother this time around! More than 60% of people who are dealing with some kind of mental issue say they struggle more around Christmas.

At my house, overspending was the norm, gift giving took proportions never seen before because I wanted people to like me! I got a handle on these two. I am, however, actively working on that boundaries one!

I’m a people pleaser, well you should know that already, I mean I used to buy extravagant gifts for friends so that they would be impressed and like me better! I also have a problem saying no taking a stand, in my own house!

I recently took up tapping, if you don’t know what it is my friend Shannon, over at finally effing happy, you can find her on instagram, she’s amazing, introduced me to it and it’s been life changing, not only with dealing with past issues but also dealing with my anxiety and creating boundaries in my everyday life. Yes, because I have no boundaries whatsoever! And during the Holidays, or family gatherings it’s worse. I either let myself get walked all over or I say something the wrong way and ruin everyone's day so, most often than not I choose to keep quiet and just let people do whatever they want even if I spent months preparing for this and was excited to receive everyone in my house to celebrate Christmas.

I keep telling myself that it’s the Season of giving so I will let it go. But we all know that’s not true. I do it because it’s the way I have to not cause conflict. I run away from confrontation like I run from the plague! People pleaser here! And the truth is, it does nothing for my anxiety or my mental well being! So...

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