We live in a reactionary world. Politics. Parenting. Baptism. Alcohol. Women in ministry. Technology.

It doesn’t take much for conversations to escalate.

In this episode of Hard Convos, Joel and Sara tackle one of the most difficult challenges Christians face today: how to disagree without dividing. Drawing from church history, Scripture, and personal experience, they unpack a centuries-old phrase that still speaks into our modern tension:

In essentials, unity.

In non-essentials, liberty.

In all things, love.

But what actually counts as “essential”?

How do you slow down when your emotions spike?

What if being wrong feels like losing your identity?

And how do you love someone when you think they’re completely mistaken?

This episode isn’t about winning arguments.

It’s about protecting relationships while holding convictions with grace.

Because following Jesus doesn’t mean avoiding disagreement —

it means learning to navigate it without becoming reactionary or cruel.