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Have You Checked On Your Strong Friend?
We say it all the time — check on your strong friend — but do we really know what that means?
In this Support Snippet, Shirl goes deeper than the surface-level reminder and speaks directly to what it looks like when strong Black women go quiet. When the one who always holds everyone else down suddenly pulls back. When the “I’m fine” doesn’t really mean fine anymore.
If you’re the strong one, or you love someone who is, this short but powerful episode will help you think differently about how support shows up, who it’s for, and what’s hiding in the silence after we stop over-functioning.
Because here’s the truth:
The strong friend gets tired too.
And when she stops showing up the way she always has — it’s not drama.
It’s a signal.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
What it really means to check on your strong friend
Why many strong Black women feel invisible when they stop doing
The emotional weight of being “the dependable one”
A gentle reminder that strong women deserve to be held too
Whether you’ve been the strong friend, ignored the strong friend, or realized that you are the strong friend… this conversation is for you.
Because shifting from being a strong Black woman to being a supported Black woman?
That’s the real work.
And it starts with noticing.
Need space to unpack your own strong friend fatigue?
Shirl is holding space for Black women who are ready to rest, reflect, and receive support without guilt.
Book a 1:1 Support Session HERE.
Other Ways to Be Supported:
Let’s Stay Connected:
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Shirl is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.
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We say it all the time — check on your strong friend — but do we really know what that means?
In this Support Snippet, Shirl goes deeper than the surface-level reminder and speaks directly to what it looks like when strong Black women go quiet. When the one who always holds everyone else down suddenly pulls back. When the “I’m fine” doesn’t really mean fine anymore.
If you’re the strong one, or you love someone who is, this short but powerful episode will help you think differently about how support shows up, who it’s for, and what’s hiding in the silence after we stop over-functioning.
Because here’s the truth:
The strong friend gets tired too.
And when she stops showing up the way she always has — it’s not drama.
It’s a signal.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
What it really means to check on your strong friend
Why many strong Black women feel invisible when they stop doing
The emotional weight of being “the dependable one”
A gentle reminder that strong women deserve to be held too
Whether you’ve been the strong friend, ignored the strong friend, or realized that you are the strong friend… this conversation is for you.
Because shifting from being a strong Black woman to being a supported Black woman?
That’s the real work.
And it starts with noticing.
Need space to unpack your own strong friend fatigue?
Shirl is holding space for Black women who are ready to rest, reflect, and receive support without guilt.
Book a 1:1 Support Session HERE.
Other Ways to Be Supported:
Let’s Stay Connected:
Related Episodes
Shirl is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.
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