In 1982, at the height of the feminist movement, Helen Gurley Brown, published a book entitled Having It All, love, success, sex and money.  A popular TV movie of the time, was also entitled Having  it All and had Dyan Cannon  with a high powered job on both coasts. Oprah has said that women can have it all, but not all at once.  And now 31 years after Helen Gurley Brown's book, the debate still rages on.  Sheryl Sandberg has recently talked about the efforts of woman in the workplace, and now Debora Spar, the President of Barnard College, in her book Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection, takes a fresh look of what is possible and and not for the woman of the 21st century.My conversation with Debora Spar: