Life continues to mirror that which we need to see and heal within ourselves. The mind rationalizes it away and it is not wrong, sometimes we need just that in order to do life.  Remember our purpose is to heal the pain not necessarily to understand it. Understand how to trust the unknown and step into the heart of God and surrender.  Finally to appreciate the suffering for it brought you to God. We fill in whatever words we are comfortable with instead of "GOD", remember it is the generating, organizing and destroying forces of the universe that are always working to maintain balance.