Healing Out Loud with MillieRose

Episode 19: I Left the Relationship, But the Fear Came With Me

The Fear, the Patterns, and the Love I Still Wanted

Content Advisory: This episode discusses domestic violence, manipulation, controlling behaviors, and the emotional effects of abusive relationships. Please listen with care.

What happens after you finally leave an abusive relationship?

Sometimes we leave the relationship, but the fear, painful beliefs, and patterns we've developed don't simply disappear.

In this continuation of our Domestic Violence Awareness Month conversation, I'm sharing how my experiences affected what I expected from love, my sense of worth, and my fear of being hurt again.

We're talking about wanting to be chosen, learning to recognize when compassion for someone else's pain causes us to overlook our own, and remembering that we have a choice in the relationships we accept.

Because someone else's inability to love us in a healthy way is not proof that we're unworthy of love.

This Week's Reflection

What fear might still be influencing what I believe I deserve?

And what would change if I stopped asking only whether someone would choose me—and started asking whether I would choose the relationship they're offering?

Domestic Violence Support

National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.)
800-799-SAFE (7233)
https://www.thehotline.org

If your phone or internet activity may be monitored, consider using a safer device to seek support.

Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we're certainly not healing perfectly.

We're simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Episode 18: Why Didn’t She Just Leave?

Understanding the Woman I Was While I Was Surviving

Content Advisory: This episode discusses domestic violence, physical abuse, and the emotional experiences of abusive relationships. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Why didn’t she just leave?

It’s a question I once asked about my own mother. Years later, after experiencing abusive relationships myself, I began to understand just how much that question overlooks.

In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I’m sharing a deeply personal reflection on fear, love, learned beliefs, self-worth, motherhood, and the complicated realities of surviving abuse.

We’re talking about why recognizing abuse doesn’t always mean feeling able to leave, why survivors deserve compassion rather than judgment, and what I’ve come to understand about the woman I was while I was surviving.

Because judgment doesn’t create safety. And shame doesn’t create freedom.

This Week’s Reflection

Instead of asking, “Why didn’t she just leave?” what if we asked, “What was she carrying that I couldn’t see?”

Domestic Violence Support

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence in the United States, the National Domestic Violence Hotline offers confidential support and safety-planning resources.

Call: 800-799-SAFE (7233)Website: https://www.thehotline.org

If your phone or internet activity may be monitored, consider using a safer device to seek support.

Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we’re certainly not healing perfectly.

We’re simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Episode 17: Romanticizing My Healing Era

I Refuse to Make This Season of My Life a Waiting Room

How much of your life have you placed in a waiting room?

Waiting for love. Waiting for more money. Waiting to lose the weight. Waiting until everything finally falls into place before giving yourself permission to enjoy your life.

In this episode of Healing Out Loud, I’m exploring what it means to romanticize my healing era—not by pretending everything is beautiful, but by learning to show up for the life I have right now.

We’re talking about wanting more without withholding joy, care, confidence, or meaningful experiences from the person we are today.

Because you can still want the flowers, the getaway, the love, and the financial freedom without making those things prerequisites for living.

This Week’s Reflection

What have I been postponing until something else happens? And is there one part of that life I can begin experiencing now?

I refuse to make this entire season of my life a waiting room.

Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we’re certainly not healing perfectly.

We’re simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Episode 16: Healing and Still Petty

When Protecting Your Feelings Gets a Little… Petty

What happens when you’re healing, growing, becoming more self-aware… and still occasionally have the thought?

In this episode of Healing Out Loud, I’m talking about those moments when protecting our feelings starts looking a little like pettiness—ignoring the call, getting quiet, keeping an unspoken tally, or saying “I’m fine” when we are definitely not fine.

Because healing doesn’t require emotional perfection. Sometimes the real growth is recognizing what’s underneath our reactions and deciding what we want to do next.

We’ll talk about the difference between boundaries and punishment, the feelings underneath protective behaviors, and learning to notice our reactions without shaming ourselves for having them.

This Week’s Reflection

What am I trying to protect right now—and is the way I’m protecting myself actually taking care of me?

Petty can be in the group chat. She just can’t be running the damn thing.

Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we’re certainly not healing perfectly.

We’re simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Episode 15: Who Are You When Nobody Needs Anything From You?

Rediscovering Yourself Beyond the Roles You Carry

Who are you when nobody needs anything from you?

Not the employee. The mother. The partner. The friend. The caregiver. The strong one. The person everybody knows they can depend on.

Just you.

In this episode of Healing Out Loud, I sit with a question that turned out to be much harder to answer than I expected. After years of working, loving, supporting, surviving, and showing up for other people, I realized I wasn’t completely sure what it meant to actively participate in my own life.

We’re talking about self-discovery beyond our wounds—learning what we enjoy now, what we’ve outgrown, what we're curious about, and who we might be becoming.

Because maybe you haven't lost yourself. Maybe there are simply parts of you that haven't had enough room to introduce themselves yet.

In this episode, we explore:

• ​The difference between being alive and participating in your own life
• ​Rediscovering yourself beyond the roles you carry
• ​Why “I don't know what I want” can be an invitation rather than a failure
• ​Giving yourself permission to explore, play, create, travel, rest, and try something new
• ​Choosing your life while still loving and supporting the people in it

Reflection:

Who am I when nobody needs anything from me—and what is one thing I'd like to discover about myself now?

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we're certainly not healing perfectly.

We're simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Peace, Love, and Good Vibes

Let Healing Feel Good

Relearning Joy, Taking Bold Action & Actually Living Your Life

What if healing didn’t always have to feel like work?

Sometimes we become so focused on processing, reflecting, regulating, and becoming “better” that we forget to actually live.

In this episode, we’re talking about making room for joy while life is still life-ing—letting ordinary good moments count, doing things simply because we enjoy them, and choosing to participate in our lives even when everything isn’t healed, settled, or perfect.

Because you don’t have to wait until everything stops hurting before you allow something to feel good.

This week’s invitation:
What’s one thing you can do simply because it makes you feel alive?

You can be healing and living at the same time.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

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Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.
We are not healing silently.
And we’re certainly not healing perfectly.

We’re simply healing out loud.

Stop Trying to Outrun Your Healing

Why Running Away Doesn’t Heal What We’re Carrying

Sometimes we run away from healing because what we’re carrying feels too heavy. Other times, once we finally recognize what needs our attention, we try to rush through the process—fixing, changing, confronting, and trying to become “healed” as quickly as possible.

But healing isn’t a race.

In this episode of Healing Out Loud, we’re talking about the difference between taking a much-needed break and avoiding what is still waiting for us when we return. We also explore what happens when we compare our healing to someone else’s and begin wondering why we’re not further along.

Because the truth is:

Their healing was never supposed to become the measuring stick for yours.

Maybe healing isn’t about running away—or racing toward some perfect healed version of ourselves.

Maybe it’s about staying with ourselves long enough to heal at the pace healing requires.

In This Episode

• ​Rest vs. avoidance
• ​The ways we “run” without going anywhere
• ​Why awareness can make us want to fix everything at once
• ​Comparing our healing journey to others
• ​Choosing one soul-rooted action from where we are

Reflection

What have you been trying to outrun?

Are you running away from something that needs your attention—or trying to rush through your healing because you think you should be further along?

If you need a moment to pause and reconnect after this conversation, listen to Rooted in Healing Practice: Returning to Yourself.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it… Out Loud.

Rooted in Healing Practice

Returning to Yourself

A Closing Practice for The Pattern Series

Episode Description

Over the past four episodes, we’ve explored The Pattern Series—recognizing old patterns, understanding where they came from, discovering the power of the pause, and learning that healing often begins one choice at a time.

But healing doesn’t end when the conversation does.

It continues in the way we breathe, the way we move, the way we speak to ourselves, and the choices we make when life gets loud.

This is the very first Rooted in Healing Practice—a new companion series designed to help you move from understanding your healing to living it.

In this gentle guided practice, you’ll be invited to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and remember one simple truth:

You know the way back.

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In This Practice

🌿 A gentle grounding breath

🤍 A moment to notice what is true today

🌱 Reflection on what is yours to carry

✨ A Rooted in Healing Declaration

🕊 A closing blessing to carry with you throughout the week

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Reflection

Ask yourself:

* What feels true for me today?

* What part of me needs kindness instead of fixing?

* What is one rooted choice I can make today?

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Closing Thought

Healing isn’t something we simply understand.

It’s something we practice.

Whenever life pulls you away from yourself…

may you remember…

you know the way back

Episode 12: Choosing Differently

The Pattern Series – Part Four

Episode Description

After we recognize the pattern, understand where it came from, and learn the power of the pause, one question remains:

Now what?

In this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to choose differently—not by changing your entire life overnight, but by interrupting old patterns one choice at a time.

We’ll also explore something that isn’t talked about enough in healing: the highs and the lows. The excitement of breakthrough… and the discouragement that sometimes follows when the old pattern shows up again.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re failing because you’re still struggling, this conversation is for you.

In This Episode

* Why awareness can feel both empowering and overwhelming

* The difference between urgency and alignment

* How to stop treating every realization like an emergency

* Why healing includes both highs and lows

* How one small choice can begin to interrupt an old pattern

Signature Reflection

You don’t break a pattern all at once. You interrupt it one choice at a time.

Gentle Practice

This week, when you notice an old pattern rising, pause and ask yourself:

* Is this mine to carry?

* Is this coming from peace or panic?

* What is one different choice I can make right now?

Journal Prompt

Where in your life are you being invited to choose one aligned action instead of ten anxious ones?

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Thank you for being part of the Healing Out Loud journey.

Join the Healing in Motion community on Facebook for continued conversations, encouragement, and support as we continue healing together—one honest conversation at a time.

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we're certainly not healing perfectly.

We're simply healing out loud.

Speak it. Heal it. Live it out loud.

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Episode 11: The Power of the Pause: Where Healing Catches Up to Awareness

In this episode of Healing Out Loud, I’m continuing The Pattern Series with a conversation about the pause — that quiet, uncomfortable, powerful space between the trigger and the response, the old pattern and the new choice.

After a rough and overwhelming week, I found myself living the very lesson this episode is about. I had to slow down. I had to listen to my body. I had to stop pushing myself just because I felt behind.

This episode is a reminder that pausing is not quitting. It is not weakness. It is not avoidance. Sometimes the pause is the place where we finally get enough space to hear ourselves clearly.

I’m sharing how the pause can help us move from reacting out of fear to choosing from a place of peace, awareness, and self-trust. Healing does not always happen in the big breakthrough. Sometimes it happens in the breath before the next choice.

In this episode, I reflect on:

* Why old patterns often rush us into reacting

* How awareness needs space before it can become change

* Why the pause can feel uncomfortable but still be sacred

* The difference between reacting from fear and choosing from peace

* How healing can begin with one small intentional pause

Signature Reflection:

The pause is where healing catches up to awareness.

Journal Prompt:

Where in my life could one intentional pause create room for a different choice?

Gentle Practice for the Week:

This week, don’t try to fix everything. Just notice one pause.

One deep breath before you answer.

One quiet moment before you react.

One chance to ask yourself:

What would love choose here instead of fear?

Because we are not healing alone.

We are not healing silently.

And we are certainly not healing perfectly.

We’re simply Healing Out Loud.