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Healing Starts When You Stop Explaining Yourself

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Episode Summary

Host Saeed Alghafri explores the exhausting habit of over-explaining and over-justifying small decisions, which often stems from low self-value and a need for validation. Through personal stories—like a colleague's emotional presentations and a CEO losing opportunities to endless consulting he reveals how this "survival strategy" drains energy and blocks healing. 

Saeed shares three practical healings to build self-trust, set concise boundaries, and embrace discomfort for stronger leadership and personal growth.

Key Takeaways

  • Over-explaining tiny things signals you don't value yourself enough—stop turning "no" into a full essay.
  • Clarity is one sentence; justification is emotional defense—drop the latter to reclaim power.
  • Stories show: Less explaining leads to more respect, faster decisions, and seized opportunities.
  • Embrace discomfort: Not everyone will understand your boundaries, and that's normal—leaders are paid to decide.
  • Trust yourself: Journal doubts with "Would I choose this if no one agreed?" Healing starts inward, not from others' approval.
  • Awareness first: Reflect on who/what triggers your over-justifying, then act with concise honesty.

    • Timestamps

    • 1:03 - Recall over-explaining a small action
    • 2:14 - Why it feels like healing but exhausts you
    • 3:35 - It becomes automatic—examples of "no" essays
    • 7:40 - Practical example: Saying no to a colleague
    • 10:04 - Story 1: Colleague's emotional presentations
    • 14:13 - Story 2: CEO over-consulting on opportunities
    • 17:15 - Healing 1: Clarity vs. justification
    • 19:03 - Healing 2: Get comfortable with discomfort
    • 20:22 - Healing 3: Trust yourself, don't rush reactions
    • 21:30 - Reflection questions & awareness action

      • You owe no one an explanation for your healing, boundaries, or growth—stop defending to those who won't understand. Share this episode to help someone thrive. Stay true!

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      Yuwab | يوابBy Saeed Alghafri, Yuwab Consulting