Avoid attracting from your inner woundings, inner blockages, inner poverty, inner negative identity, inner struggles ~ in Other PEOPLE. We don't want that. We don't need to fix other to feel better, avoid our own pain. When you do feel love, concern, benevolence, toward self you will BEGIN to attract those that also care for self, self good, self gain in a positive. Society celebrates the relationship of another, outside of you, when In reality , the most important relationship is the one INSIDE you!!