In this episode, Kira's dad, Dr. H, joins in the conversation to talk about what makes a good stepdad. He has 13 children (that he knows about), which includes five biological children and eight bonus children. Dr. H shares why he has always insisted on not labeling his blended family as "half or step". He tells the story of his great aunt who told him never to speak to her again if he did not take care of his children. Kira gets emotional as she describes the love and care her stepmother has for her. She shares why she feels that she set an ideal example of who co-parenting in a blended family should look like. Kira's parents have been together for 35 years, and her father provide insights on how he has been able to sustain his long term relationship. 

Dr. H shares the two heart surgeries he had in Aug 1994 and May 2002. Kira ties his procedures into her quest for love outlining how hereditary issues and her personal self love journey have shaped her views on love. They discuss that similar to some heart surgeries a person may have to take from other parts of themselves to make themselves whole and receptive to love. During that time, one may have to rely on their support system, change who and where they receive information, and change the way they live to receive love. They also discuss that having a second surgery is likely; however, it could be life threatening. Which in terms of love, one may never recovery from a broken heart and commit themselves to a life of singleness and become unwilling to love again. 

Kira's dad describes her as a child. He says he knew she was different when she turned 2 weeks old and how she carved a special place in her heart. They share four phone calls that caused a pivot in their relationship. The first of him telling her that he was not returning back to Atlanta to live with her, her brother, and mom as a father. The second, when Kira called to share that her mom was sick and needed help closes out family affairs. The third when Kira left a voice message using her second language of profanity telling her dad how she felt. Then the fourth call back from Kira to apologize, forgive her father, and begin to heal their relationship. 

Kira is shocked to learn that her father thinks she should wait to get into a relationship. However, he does describe what he thinks would be the ideal partner for his daughter and why traditional gender roles would never work for Kira. Dr. H shares why he believes women are more durable than men and why they should not sacrifice their own dreams for those of her partner. 

Guest: Dr. Rev. Frederick Hancock I

Song Credit: Daddy by Beyonce

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