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October 29Is Being A People Pleaser Leaving You Exhausted & Drained? - Lyn Smith & Mary Armendarez
Lyn sits down with personal growth expert Mary Armendarez to talk about how habitual people-pleasing causes emotional exhaustion & burnout.
Drawing on personal journeys through early trauma, societal conditioning, and boundary work, they break down why constantly saying “yes” to others often means betraying oneself.
Together, they explore how overcoming the fear of judgment, letting go of guilt, establishing healthy boundaries, and embracing mindful self-regulation can transform your relationships and help you reclaim your self-worth.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Chronic people-pleasing is an energy leak that directly violates your own authentic desires and inner well-being.

Saying "no" without guilt or elaborate excuses fosters deeper self-worth and often earns genuine respect from others.

Relationships that crumble simply because you set healthy boundaries were never built on authentic connections to begin with.

Grounding yourself through conscious breathing and self-validation shifts you away from fear, lack, and outside judgment into a state of empowerment
BEST MOMENTS
"People pleasing truly goes against your will. If you don't want to do something, but we do it anyways, we're leaking our energy and we're going against our will, what we really want."
"If your friends or your associates can't hear you say - 'no, I need to take a break,'' - they're not your friends."
"When I found my voice and was able to say no or I can't, and not feel that I needed to give any sort of reason or excuse, it felt quite liberating and I found, actually, that people respected me a lot more.”
"Let's take off that old victim hat, let's take off that old guilt hat... What you're doing is bringing self-respect when you say no."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Mary Armendarez - Personal Growth Expert
As a teenager, Mary was kicked out of her home and in a single moment, everything changed. Mary’s heart was broken. She felt abandoned, betrayed, and completely alone. The place that was supposed to feel safe was suddenly gone, and she didn't know where she belonged anymore. So, Mary did the only thing she knew how to do—she survived.
Website - https://maryarmendarez.com
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
34 min
October 15Curiosity Is The Key To Healing Trauma - Lyn Smith & Lisa Arrigo
Lyn is joined by trauma specialist and therapist Lisa Arrigo to understand how curiosity serves as the true catalyst for healing. Sharing her own raw journey through perfectionism, addiction, and personal awakening, Lisa reframes addictive habits and emotional triggers not as moral flaws, but as deeply conditioned survival adaptations rooted in unresolved wounds.
Together, they explore why knowledge alone isn't enough to recover, how relational safety and somatic awareness de-pathologise our struggles, and why simple, compassionate daily practices can ultimately rewire our nervous system toward lasting self-love.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Intellectual knowledge alone cannot heal trauma; lasting recovery requires deep curiosity and attunement to what our bodies are experiencing beneath conscious thought.

Addictive behaviours, perfectionism, and unhealthy habits originate as natural survival adaptations designed to regulate an overwhelmed nervous system.

Healing cannot occur in isolation, as genuine recovery depends on cultivating safe, empathetic relationships with others and compassionate self-love from within.

Triggers are not evidence of personal failure, but rather essential alarm systems pointing to wounded parts of ourselves that require attention and care.
BEST MOMENTS
"Knowledge in and of itself is not enough to heal. We need to get curious about what's happening in our bodies and what those patterns were before we even had consciousness and as we grow."
"Every addiction starts as a coping strategy. Every addiction or unhealthy habit starts as a way of coping, attempting to regulate the nervous system..."
"Because if we don't have safety in our relationships, we cannot heal in isolation. I tried that... but we need other people to heal. We're wired for relationships, and we cannot do it alone."
"Our triggers are really just red flags to let us know that something within us needs attention or healing."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Lisa Arrigo - Psychotherapist/ Trauma Specialist
Lisa Arrigo’s twenty-year journey as a psychotherapist has been extraordinary. Her personal and professional experiences have given her a
profound appreciation for our innate capacity not simply to survive, but to
transform difficult and often traumatic life events in ways that foster
understanding, a deeper sense of connection with oneself and others and,
hopefully, healing.
Website - https://lisaarrigo.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lisa.arrigo.therapy
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
31 min
October 01Why Do People Keep Choosing The Wrong Partners? - Lyn Smith & Jena Jake
Lyn is joined by compatibility strategist Jena Jake to uncover why so many people find themselves repeatedly drawn to the wrong romantic partners. Diving deep into the psychology of attachment, Jena reveals how subconscious wiring leads individuals to mistake the familiarity of past trauma for genuine connection and explains why establishing clear personal boundaries—using her signature "velvet rope" and "PAWS" frameworks—is essential to reclaiming self-worth
KEY TAKEAWAYS
People repeatedly choose incompatible partners because the subconscious mind naturally seeks what is familiar rather than what is genuinely healthy.

Healthy boundaries serve as a self-protective "velvet rope" that prevents self-abandonment and teaches others how to treat you.

Romantic partners are not meant to heal past wounds or complete you; genuine fulfillment starts with self-love and internal wholeness.

Through neuroplasticity and mindful self-talk, you can rewire old behavioral patterns to align your energy with the type of relationship you truly deserve
BEST MOMENTS
"It's not about getting someone, it's about becoming someone or being someone."
"You are wired to choose what is familiar to you, what you are attached to, which a lot of the time is not what is good for you."
"No is a complete sentence and when you're more worried about hurting their feelings than you are self-abandoning, that's where the work is."
"You're only going to attract someone as healthy as you are."
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
28 min
September 17What If Chemistry Hides Familiar Pain? - Lyn Smith & Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides
Lyn is joined by psychologist Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides to examine the psychological undercurrents of intense romantic attraction. Drawing on decades of developmental attachment research and clinical practice, Dr. Lukeides unpacks how early childhood caregiving dynamics shape adult partnership choices, often driving people to mistake the familiar friction of past emotional wounds for true romantic sparks.
The discussion explores the push-and-pull between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, provides practical insight into breaking unconscious relationship cycles, and emphasises why identifying the exact dynamic you want day-to-day matters far more than obsessing over surface-level traits.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Attachment styles formed between infants and primary caregivers track longitudinally into adulthood, deeply shaping how individuals select and relate to romantic partners.

People with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles are routinely drawn to one another, sparking an intense cycle of mutual attraction followed by repulsion.

Intense "chemistry" is often an unconscious attempt to re-enact and resolve unmet emotional needs or unavailable dynamics experienced in childhood.

Choosing a healthy long-term partnership requires focusing on the daily operational dynamic of the relationship rather than relying solely on charismatic traits or reactive passions.
BEST MOMENTS
"It very much reminded me of what Freud would say about relationships, which is that we repeat to repair."

"If I think I'm the problem, then I'm the red flag—I'm just going to try and make myself green and work on myself, which means that I'm not actually constructing the boundaries."

"Even if you win... you're reinforcing that yes, it was your fault. So even mastery is a loss here."

"Love yourselves as if your life depends on it, because it does."
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
32 min
September 03Couples Therapy: Navigating Conflict, Infidelity & Healthy Communication - Lyn Smith & Keith Jordan
Lyn sits down with licensed clinical social worker and couples therapist Keith Jordan to explore what it truly takes to reconcile and sustain romantic partnerships. Drawing on four decades of mental health experience, Keith breaks down common relationship pitfalls—from communication breakdowns and infidelity to escalating retaliations—and offers actionable strategies to diffuse tension before it completely destroys trust.
Together, they unpack why active listening must replace defensiveness, how setting personal boundaries differs from controlling your partner, and why shedding rigid "shoulds" opens the door to genuine emotional growth.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
True active listening requires giving your partner full, uninterrupted attention rather than formulating a mental rebuttal while they speak.

Establishing boundaries should focus on identifying and expressing your own core needs rather than attempting to dictate what your partner should or should not do.

Take turns speaking/ listening - limit to 60 seconds to prevent overwhelming monologues which allows each partner to clarify meaning rather than make defensive assumptions.

Overcoming defensiveness begins when individuals realise that conflicts are not an attack on their character, instead it's opening the door for constructive problem-solving over blame.
BEST MOMENTS
"Listen to what they're saying from their point of view rather than preparing your rebuttal to what they're saying."
"A lot of argument... happens even though people are actually in agreement, but they don't realise that they are."
"Defensiveness often is... a reaction based on the person trying to assert that they're a good person, as if they're being accused of not being the right kind of person..."
"Concepts of what how things should be, you know, the world doesn't really operate according to should. It's a man-made construct, it's not really a spiritual concept at all."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Keith Jordan - Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Keith Jordan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, relationship counseling, and trauma-informed mental health care.
Throughout his career, he has worked extensively with individuals and couples navigating trauma, emotional disconnection, intimacy challenges, and relationship repair.
Websites:
Private practice https://www.keithjordanlcsw.com/
Resources for couples therapists https://www.ctadeliveryllc.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
27 min
July 23When Does Attraction Become An Unhealthy Trap? - Lyn Smith & Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards
Lyn welcomes spiritual counsellor Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards to discuss his deeply personal book, The Venus Flytrap. Stephen opens up about his journey through a tumultuous three-year relationship with a beautiful yet manipulative partner, exploring how even experienced relationship experts can attract/ fall into toxic dynamics when weakened by burnout or unresolved past trauma. Rather than viewing himself as a victim, Stephen shares how shifting his mindset to see every challenge as a mirror, allowed him to release unhealthy attachments, heal childhood patterns, and embrace true vulnerability as a pathway to emotional freedom.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Toxic relationships often stem from underlying childhood patterns rather than simple relationship issues.

Unhealthy attachments occur when we confuse external items or relationships with our personal identity.

Viewing difficult experiences as happening for us rather than to us prevents us from adopting a victim mindset.

True power and emotional freedom come from being vulnerable and releasing the fear of what others think.
BEST MOMENTS
"You don't have a relationship problem, you have a pattern problem."

"Everything is a mirror... She was mirroring back to me pieces of myself that I'd given away over the course of my life or I hadn't embraced or hadn't accepted as part of myself, so that I could heal them."

"When you're attached, you think it's part of who you are—that it's part of your identity."

"Vulnerable is a power, not something to fear, because when you can be vulnerable... it gives you freedom that you can't get any other way."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards
Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards is an international speaker, author, and spiritual
counselor with a PhD in Spiritual Counseling. Originally from Blackpool, UK, and now based in Florida, he combines decades of business experience with expertise in personal transformation and emotional growth.
Author of The Venus Fly Trap, a raw memoir exploring power, obsession, vulnerability, and reinvention, Dr. Edwards draws on his own journey from high-pressure business success, heartbreak, and identity collapse to guide others toward self-awareness, authenticity, and alignment of mind, body, and spirit.
Today, he helps individuals break destructive patterns, rebuild self-worth, and live with clarity and purpose, inspiring audiences to embrace truth, confront discomfort, and reclaim their authentic selves.
Website: https://vft23.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_sapereaude/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemiracles/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vft23_official?lang=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575468609762
X: https://x.com/Stephen_Edwardz

ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
35 min
June 25Feeling Disconnected: How To Reconnect & Achieve Personal Fulfillment - Lyn Smith & Nancy Ho
Lyn sits down with transformation coach and life strategist Nancy Ho to unpack the mysterious "inner void"—that heavy, unfulfilling numbness that high achievers often experience even when life looks great on the outside.
Nancy shares how this loss of zest is rarely tied to a single adult event, but is instead a slow buildup rooted in subtle childhood misunderstandings and subconscious perceptions.
Through a fascinating deep-dive process combining conversation and hypnotherapy, Nancy explains how bringing the conscious and subconscious minds together can clear up these inner miscommunications, allowing listeners to rewrite their self-beliefs, embrace their natural emotions, and safely navigate grief, vulnerability, and transformation.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Unfulfillment and low energy are often the result of a slow emotional buildup over time rather than a single negative adult event.

The root cause of adult imposter syndrome or an inner void usually stems from the way we subjectively interpreted events or comparisons during our childhood.

True healing occurs when the conscious and subconscious minds align to clear up deep-seated emotional miscommunications.

Moving forward effectively requires redefining our habits and learning to accept natural human emotions, like grief and vulnerability, without dwelling on them.
BEST MOMENTS
"They are waking up to just something’s not right and they can’t even put their finger there... it’s like our pulse is more or less starting to flatline rather than beat in a good, healthy rhythm."
"Whatever happened as an adult is a trigger. It’s not the cause of it. The root cause is usually as a child... it doesn't mean that we have to come from a violent or bad childhood."
"People don’t always remember what we say, but they always remember how they feel... similarly, this subconscious-conscious thing is how we feel about ourselves."
"Stop focusing on things we cannot control, and focus on the things we can control... control what we can control, don’t try to control what we cannot control."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Nancy Ho - Author & Transformative Coach
Nancy Ho is an internationally recognized thought leader on “The Paradox of Success” who has spent 26 years helping more than 10,000 high achieving professionals navigate the hidden burdens of success and reconnect with their personal fulfilment.
Website - https://www.nancyho.co
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
32 min
June 11Finding Flow: From Survival to Abundance - Lyn Smith & Christy Whitman
Lyn talks to spiritual teacher and best-selling author Christy Whitman to explore the transformational journey from survival to fulfillment.
Christy shares her personal awakening from depression to spiritual clarity, unpacking how hidden, repetitive negative thoughts dictate our reality. Together, they discuss the dynamics of energy flow, providing listeners with practical, somatic tools such as head-and-neck release and visualisation exercises, to dissolve the cycles of fear, lack, worry and doubt, and ultimately tune into a sustainable energy of gratitude and abundance.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Moving out of survival mode requires acknowledging that negative thoughts are not absolute truths, but rather malleable energies that we have the power to stop and transform.

Our bodies possess an energetic valve at the base of the head and spine that, when consciously released, can instantly soothe the nervous system and clear stress out of the body.

Authentic abundance cannot be faked with disconnected positive affirmations; instead, it is built incrementally by leaning into realistic, better-feeling thoughts that slowly positively shift our self-identity.

Cultivating a constant, daily dialogue of gratitude for what is present in the "now" is the most direct pathway to matching the universal energy frequency of a consistant flow state.
BEST MOMENTS
"You create your own reality... You’re either repelling things from you or attracting things to you based on the way you think."
"We're either thinking thoughts of what we want, which feel expansive and life-giving... or we're thinking thoughts of lack or limitation that are constrictive and restrictive."
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, that's why today is called the present because it's a gift."
"We all think that, 'Oh, when in the future I have this, then I'll feel ...,' and we're projecting and postponing our life force energy out into the future when the only place and only time we can ever feel is in our now."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Christy Whitman - Spiritual Teacher/ Author
2 x NYT bestselling author of The Flow Factor: How to Master Your Energy and Enter a State of Flow.
Website - https://www.watchyourwords.com
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
36 min
May 28Desires: Resolving The Differences Between Men & Women - Lyn Smith & Fran Frye
Lyn sits down with sex counselor Fran Frye to dismantle the common misconceptions surrounding male and female sexual desires. Drawing from her personal journey as a rape survivor turned advocate, Fran offers a profound look into the world of problematic sexual behaviours and the distinct frameworks of spontaneous desire versus responsive desire.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Men more frequently experience spontaneous desire (instantly ready out of the blue), while women often experience responsive desire, which requires warmth, curiosity, and lead-up to activate.

A vital piece of anatomical education is that vaginal lubrication is a natural physiological preparation for penetration, but it does not automatically mean a woman is psychologically turned on or ready for sex.

To combat boredom and explore novelty safely, couples can utilise a "yes, no, maybe" list online or via social media to find creative, mutually comfortable ways to connect/ spice things up.

Rather than viewing it as a mere tool for performance, men naturally seek emotional connection through their sexuality; understanding the erotic nervous system is crucial for male emotional regulation and well-being.
BEST MOMENTS
"We are not dildos. We aren't meant to just be erect and expected to be ready to quote-on-quote perform. There is some lead-up and connection that is required."
"Women often find themselves bored in sex faster than men do... I find that it’s the sex that they're having is what they're bored with."
"A regulated man is safer than any weapon we sell in the name of protection, and I find that sex and regulation is very important to the betterment of men."
"Communication is lubrication."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Fran Frye – Sex Educator, Counsellor & Clinician
Fran Frye focus's on supporting men as they unpack their sexuality within a patriarchal culture that often labels them as dangerous, defective, or emotionally closed off.
She helps dismantle these narratives through curiosity, empathy and practical tools that foster healthier relationships with the body, partners and self, helping them build greater empathy, emotional depth, and
responsibility in their intimate lives.
Website - https://www.franfrye.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/franfryecounseling/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@franfryecounseling
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
29 min
May 14Healing Sexual Trauma - Lyn Smith & Erika Shershun
Lyn welcomes licensed therapist and somatic trauma specialist Erika Shershun for an illuminating conversation on healing & recovering from sexual trauma.
Drawing from her own 17-year healing journey, Erika demystifies complex concepts like Polyvagal Theory (understanding the relationship between the nervous system and our emotions) and the body’s innate "flight, fight or freeze" responses, explaining how trauma physically embeds itself in the nervous system long after the event.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Trauma isn't just a mental hurdle; it’s a physical state where the nervous system remains stuck in a defensive response of flight, fight, or freeze.

The nervous system decides to enter a protective state (such as freezing) faster than the conscious brain can think, often as a primal survival mechanism.

"Talk therapy" often falls short because it ignores the physical patterns of constriction and numbness that trauma leaves in the body.

Recovery involves learning to gently transmute trauma by shifting between nervous system states, moving away from chronic hyper-vigilance and back toward a felt sense of safety.
BEST MOMENTS
"The realisation came to me about 17 years into therapy. I realised just how much the trauma stays in the body until it's integrated."
"Your nervous system has a wisdom. It took you to a freeze state because it knew it was your best chance of survival."
"If you only work with a persons thoughts, the patterns of movement and constriction are still taking place in the body; you're not really integrating the trauma."
"Healing is no longer getting triggered by the trauma and having the symptoms clear up that are clearly associated with it."
ABOUT THE GUEST - Erika Shershun - Somatic Psychotherapist
Erika Shershun, MA, LMFT, is a somatic psychotherapist who specializes in
helping trauma survivors reclaim the life they were meant to live.
She’s the author of the Healing Sexual Trauma Guided
Journal: Writing and Somatic Practices to Help You Process, Heal, and Feel
Safe.
Websites:
https://healingsexualtrauma.com/
https://erikashershuntherapy.com/

ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method [email protected]
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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