When that pregnancy test turns positive, most people instantly start imagining the future. So when a miscarriage happens, it’s not just the pregnancy that’s lost. It’s the future they had already started dreaming about. That’s why phrases like “You’ll get pregnant again” can feel so painful. So, how do we navigate miscarriage and pregnancy loss in a society where the topic is still whispered about, misunderstood, or treated like a taboo?

In this powerful episode, Laquvia sits down with Brandy Khalani, founder of Mending Mama, a nonprofit providing a safe, faith-centered community for women walking through miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, abortion recovery, and postpartum depression.

Brandy’s story is one of purpose birthed through pain. After enduring four miscarriages, a near-death septic pregnancy, and a devastating lack of medical support, she experienced firsthand how minimized and misunderstood pregnancy loss often is. From being sent home while septic to hearing the painful words “You can get pregnant again,” her journey exposes a harsh truth: Women are suffering in silence because society is uncomfortable with their grief.

Yet her story is also filled with hope. In 2022, after being told she and her husband each had only a 1 percent chance of conceiving, Brandy experienced a miracle. A prophetic prayer on Mother’s Day declared her womb filled within a year, and exactly one year later she introduced her son David to her pastor.

From that pain, God revealed her calling. Mending Mama was born to support women in their healing journey through faith, restored identity, and shared experience. If you have ever wondered “Am I the only one,” this episode is your reminder that you are not alone.

In This Episode:

• [00:00] Introduction 

• [01:05] The taboo of pregnancy loss

• [03:05] Desensitization and statistics

• [04:55] Postpartum depression after loss

• [05:32] Brandi’s personal miscarriage story

• [11:24] Physical and emotional impact of miscarriage

• [14:21] Support from partners

• [16:19] Medical neglect and family story

• [20:54] Barriers to support and therapy

• [21:54] The birth of Mending Mama

• [22:50] A testimony of faith and miracles

• [26:05] Pregnancy after loss

• [27:10] Starting the support group

• [30:03] Leading while grieving

• [32:13] Academic and personal struggles

• [33:48] Guilt, shame, and purpose

• [34:53] The power of community

• [35:33] Restoration and faith

• [37:05] Empathy and relatability

• [38:22] Purpose in pain

• [41:06] The ongoing impact of loss

• [40:25] Explaining loss to children

• [42:07] The grief of lost futures

• [44:00] Stillbirth and peer support

• [46:05] Advice for those facing loss

• [49:02] Contact information and closing

Notable Quotes

• [02:17] “One of the most hurtful things you can say to someone who’s lost a baby is, 'You can get pregnant again.' Children don’t replace children.” — Brandy

• [05:39] “When you miscarry, you still contract, you still dilate, you still give birth. I have personally lost four pregnancies.” — Brandy

• [05:54] “Mending Mama happened because of my miscarriages, truly because of my third.” — Brandy

• [11:50] “I was having to, like, put things down because the bleeding was so bad, I would stand up and pour blood.” — Brandy

• [30:02] “After you lose a baby, you wonder, 'Is that all people see when they see me? Am I marked by this? Is this my identity now?’” — Brandy

• [42:16] “From the moment that pregnancy test turns positive, you’re already planning the future, so it’s not just losing a baby, it’s losing your entire future.” — Brandy

• [45:05] “What’s great about having community is that it’s peer support. Unless you’ve lived through it, you’re not going to be as good a resource as someone who has been through it.” — Brandy

Resources and Links

Unleash and Rise

• Unleash & Rise Podcast

Brandy Khalani

• Mending Mama’s Website

• Email: [email protected]

Laquvia Garrett

• Website

• Instagram

• LinkedIn