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Helicopter Parenting versus Supervision
[Week 27 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Who decides how much supervision children need?
How much supervision do children need? Who gets to decide what supervision is appropriate? And who gets to supervise? This should depend on things like:
Sometimes it will also depend on the experience of parent and that is okay. Parents are faced with such decisions on a daily basis. They must weigh how various things are coming together.
Honestly, there is not one set perfect way to supervise all children or even one child at a given time. The overall relationship and communication of the parents and child will have more affect on how any supervision affects the child than exactly what kind of supervision is going on. It is one-dimensional to label someone else’s supervision approach. It is also typically more self-gratifying than helpful.
Who came up with the term helicopter parent?
I highly suspect the term helicopter parent was coined by a psychologist who only sees families seeking help for conflict. This would probably include many families who don’t really have significant problems, but were referred by meddlesome school personnel. For some weird reason, children are suppose to be closely guarded in schools, but a parent who wants to keep a close eye on his own children is overbearing.
Ironically, after the child has spent hours every day away from home, the parent is often labeled as hovering and intrusive for asking simple questions about how the day went or what the child’s current plans are. One could get very suspicious that the goal of those running the schools is to drive a wedge between parent and child. Having a derogatory label to shame interested parents makes this much easier.
The combination of hours spend under the supervision of others and the subsequent diminished value of parental influence unsurprisingly leads many children to disregard parents. In the child’s mind, parents become easily relegated to the roles of janitor and bus driver. From the parents’ perspective, they have to be constantly asking what is going on.
To hear some people, parents are supposed to be all-knowing and held accountable while at the same time be invisible and never interfere. Don’t follow your toddler too close around the playground, but don’t let him get hit by swings. Don’t set limits on where your child can explore, but make sure he does his homework every night.
What does the word supervision mean?
Supervision sounds like a super power. And maybe it is. It is a skill that parents need to feel free to develop so that their children can grow and mature without suffering serious consequences. The prefix ‘super’ means above
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By Laura Blodgett[Week 27 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Who decides how much supervision children need?
How much supervision do children need? Who gets to decide what supervision is appropriate? And who gets to supervise? This should depend on things like:
Sometimes it will also depend on the experience of parent and that is okay. Parents are faced with such decisions on a daily basis. They must weigh how various things are coming together.
Honestly, there is not one set perfect way to supervise all children or even one child at a given time. The overall relationship and communication of the parents and child will have more affect on how any supervision affects the child than exactly what kind of supervision is going on. It is one-dimensional to label someone else’s supervision approach. It is also typically more self-gratifying than helpful.
Who came up with the term helicopter parent?
I highly suspect the term helicopter parent was coined by a psychologist who only sees families seeking help for conflict. This would probably include many families who don’t really have significant problems, but were referred by meddlesome school personnel. For some weird reason, children are suppose to be closely guarded in schools, but a parent who wants to keep a close eye on his own children is overbearing.
Ironically, after the child has spent hours every day away from home, the parent is often labeled as hovering and intrusive for asking simple questions about how the day went or what the child’s current plans are. One could get very suspicious that the goal of those running the schools is to drive a wedge between parent and child. Having a derogatory label to shame interested parents makes this much easier.
The combination of hours spend under the supervision of others and the subsequent diminished value of parental influence unsurprisingly leads many children to disregard parents. In the child’s mind, parents become easily relegated to the roles of janitor and bus driver. From the parents’ perspective, they have to be constantly asking what is going on.
To hear some people, parents are supposed to be all-knowing and held accountable while at the same time be invisible and never interfere. Don’t follow your toddler too close around the playground, but don’t let him get hit by swings. Don’t set limits on where your child can explore, but make sure he does his homework every night.
What does the word supervision mean?
Supervision sounds like a super power. And maybe it is. It is a skill that parents need to feel free to develop so that their children can grow and mature without suffering serious consequences. The prefix ‘super’ means above