When I got the pitch "three steps to a mental orgasm" from the PR person representing sex therapist Dr. Chelsie Reed, I was skeptical.

But I was also intrigued by the idea of a mental orgasm, which is a scientifically-proven regular orgasm—only one induced by the mind, rather than any genital stimulation. (Think: wet dreams, only on command.)

In this conversation, Dr. Reed explains how to try to have a mental orgasm, as well as the different kinds of orgasms vagina-owners might be missing. I hope this conversation brings some interesting ideas into your orgasmic life—and also does not create any shame whatsoever if you are not able to have a mental orgasm. (I know I am going to try, but I am skeptical I'll be able to cultivate this Jedi mind trick.)

 Dr. Cheslie Reed's book is Sexpert: Desire, Passion Sensations, Intimacy, and Orgasm to Indulge in Your Best Sex Life. You can find her website at www.drchelsea.com. You can also find her on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter @drchelsie.

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