How do you figure out what your boundaries are? How should you go about communicating boundaries in a way that is both firm and compassionate? How can you remain flexible and open to change without having porous boundaries? Do the same strategies apply to both familial and romantic relationships? 

I knew just who to ask: Dedeker Winston, relationship coach, host of the Multiamory podcast, and author of The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory, along with the excellent forthcoming communication guide Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships.  Dedeker is one of the smartest, most articulate people I know, and this conversation was incredibly helpful to me on a practical, nitty-gritty-communication-tips level. I hope you find it useful as well!