What if your child’s confidence was never tied to achievement?

In this powerful solo episode, Kat shares the early roots of her struggle with self-worth and how that moment on a preschool stage shaped her inner world for decades. She unpacks the unspoken messages kids receive about achievement, performance, and identity—and why the work of instilling self-worth must begin early. This episode is a heartfelt call to parents, educators, and mentors to help kids understand that their value is not based on trophies, rankings, or grades—but on who they are at their core.

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00:00 Kat recalls her first memory of questioning her worth in a preschool speech contest

01:00 Reflections on what drives our early desire to “place first”

02:00 Exploring how performance is often mistaken for value

04:00 How schools reward achievement but not persistence or self-reflection

05:00 Social media and modern pressures to perform for validation

06:00 Kat’s experience teaching kids across disciplines—from dance to chess to piano

07:00 The one question all kids ask: “Am I good enough?”

08:00 How Kat’s mission is to use music as a tool for teaching self-worth

09:00 A call to adults: how we interact with kids matters deeply

10:00 Closing reflections: worth isn’t measured in wins—it’s lived through character