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How to Teach Kids Consideration: Modeling, Object Lessons, and Stories

The host answers a listener's question about teaching children to be considerate rather than selfish. They explain that the most powerful teaching method is modeling, including clarifying the difference between parental authority and selfishness and, when appropriate, repenting and asking children for forgiveness. The episode suggests practical tools such as object lessons (e.g., giving kids a candy bag filled with rocks to help them identify how selfishness feels), naming and highlighting considerate vs. selfish behavior to build vocabulary, and checking that children understand expectations (illustrated by an R.C. Sproul story about children not knowing what “stoop” meant). The host recommends using stories—books, podcasts, movies, and the resource Tales of Virtue—to discuss examples of character traits, noting that stories and parables help lessons stick. The episode also mentions podcast fan mail, the host’s book "Mess to Majesty: Let God Love You in Your Mess" on Amazon with free journaling resources, and an email list for updates on a future group coaching program connected to the Mess to Majesty transformation.

00:00 Listener Question: Teaching Kids Consideration Over Selfishness
00:08 How to Submit Questions + Fan Mail Notes
00:35 Quick Update: 'Mess to Majesty' Book & Free Resources
01:10 Start of Today’s Answer: Model Consideration at Home
01:55 Talk Through Authority vs. Selfishness (and Apologize When Needed)
02:24 Object Lesson Idea: The Candy Bag Swap to Build Empathy
04:07 Name It to Train It: Vocabulary, Spotting Selfishness in Real Time
04:36 RC Sproul ‘Stoop’ Story: Kids Can Misunderstand Expectations
05:37 Use Stories & Media to Teach Character (Books, Odyssey, Tales of Virtue)
06:33 Wrap-Up: Why Stories Stick (Jesus’ Parables)

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