But the Years Are Short

Helping Kids Understand Death & Grief (Without Making It Scarier)


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Talking to kids about death and grief can feel overwhelming — many parents worry they’ll say the wrong thing, make it scarier, or open a door they don’t know how to close.

In this episode, Katie and Meagan walk parents through how to talk about death and grief in developmentally appropriate, honest, and emotionally supportive ways, without over-explaining or avoiding the conversation altogether.

They normalize why kids (especially ages 6–8) suddenly ask a lot of questions about death, explain what kids actually need from us in these moments, and offer practical language you can use when emotions run high — for both your kids and yourself.

This is a grounding, reassuring conversation for any parent navigating loss, big changes, or big feelings.

  • Why avoiding conversations about death often makes things harder for kids

  • What’s happening developmentally when kids start asking big questions about death

  • Why kids repeat the same questions again and again — and why that’s normal

  • How to talk about death in simple, concrete ways (and what language to avoid)

  • Helping kids when they worry about you dying

  • How grief shows up beyond death (divorce, moves, illness, big life changes)

  • What grief actually is — and how to explain it to kids

  • How to support your child’s grief without making them responsible for yours

  • When extra support from a mental health professional may be helpful

  • “Your feelings make sense.”

  • “It’s okay to ask the same question again.”

  • “I don’t have all the answers, but we can talk about it together.”

  • Grief comes in waves — and connection matters more than perfect words

  • These are not one-time conversations; they unfold over time

Talking about death doesn’t harm kids — not talking about it does.
Your presence, honesty, and willingness to sit with hard feelings is what builds safety and trust.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with a parent who’s navigating loss, big transitions, or heavy questions — and remember: you don’t have to do this perfectly to do it well.

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