When one partner’s sex drive slows down, how do you lovingly reignite the spark without pressure or resentment? In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m answering a heartfelt question from a follower about mismatched desire in long-term relationships. As a woman in my 50s—and someone who coaches men and couples through this exact issue—I’m sharing why so many women become less sexually responsive over time, what health and hormonal changes may be at play, and how to shift the energy in your relationship through emotional attunement and small, nurturing actions.

If you’re feeling lonely, confused, or frustrated by a lack of intimacy, this episode is full of encouragement and real strategies you can use.

And if you want personalized support, I’m currently offering my Step Into Spring: April Showers Bring May Flowers of Change Special—book a 30-minute coaching session for half off during the rest of April and May!

Visit https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine to grab your spot.

Do you have a question you want me to answer on the show? DM me @the_sarah_valentine or email me at [email protected].

You are not alone, and you are absolutely capable of creating a deeper connection.

I am answering YOUR questions, thanks for asking!

Being stuck in a sexless marriage is frustrating, lonely, and can shake your confidence to the core. Many men turn to porn as an easy outlet, but is that the best long-term solution?

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m answering a follower’s question about mindful and healthy ways to engage with self-pleasure—without relying on porn.

We’ll dive into:✔️ The real reason your marriage is sexless—and why you need to ask the hard questions✔️ Healthy, mindful self-pleasure practices that go beyond quick release✔️ How to reconnect with your sexuality while also working toward deeper intimacy

Action Step: This week, commit to one mindful practice to explore your sexuality in a more fulfilling way.

If this episode resonates with you and you’re ready for deeper support, I’m taking on new one-on-one clients for my Step Into Spring Special—30-minute coaching sessions for half off in April & May!

Let’s get you back to confidence, connection, and a fulfilling sex life.

Visit my Stan Store to book a session today!

Got a question for me?

Please email me at [email protected].

Let’s make this season of change work in your favor! ✨

Spring is the season of renewal, growth, and fresh starts—so why not use it as a chance to step into the best version of yourself?

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re talking about planting the seeds of change in your life so you can start seeing real transformation in your confidence, relationships, and mindset. Shout-out to our friend Michael for the question!

You’ll learn:✔️ Why spring is the perfect time to reset and refocus✔️ How small, intentional actions today lead to big results later✔️ Simple steps you can take NOW to build confidence, improve relationships, and create the life you want

Action Step: Choose ONE area of your life to improve this season and commit to taking one small step today. Growth takes time, but the effort you put in now will pay off later.

And if you’re ready for real, lasting change, I’m offering a Step Into Spring Special—30-minute coaching sessions for half off during April and May! Get the support you need to grow into your best self. Visit my Stan Store to book!

Want me to answer YOUR question? Please email me at [email protected].

What do you do when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on politics? In today’s world, political views aren’t just opinions but deeply personal. And when the person you care about has completely different beliefs, it can feel like a constant battle.

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m breaking down:✔️ Why political disagreements feel so personal✔️ How to talk about your differences without it turning into a fight✔️ When opposing views are just a disagreement—and when they’re a dealbreaker. If politics have been causing tension in your relationship, you don’t have to let it tear you apart. Let’s talk about how to navigate this without losing your connection—or your sanity.

Got a question you want me to answer on the podcast?

Look for my IG stories "Ask Me a Question" sticker @the_sarah_valentine or email me at [email protected].

Want to improve your relationships and confidence? I’m taking on new coaching clients for the summer! Visit my Stan Store to book a session with me.

Hit play, and let’s dive in! ✨

In this episode, I’m diving into your burning question and giving my real, unfiltered answers—no fluff, just honest feedback.

Whether it’s about intimacy, confidence, relationships, or personal growth, I’m here to give you the insights you need.

Got a question you want me to answer on the podcast? Submit it through my Instagram stories @the_sarah_valentine or email me at [email protected].

And if you’re ready to do the deep work this summer, I’m taking on new clients! Let’s work together to build your confidence, strengthen your relationships, and create the life you want. Visit my Stan Store to get on my calendar.

We started the conversation about porn in relationships, but what if you and your partner have different views on it? In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling how to have open, honest discussions about porn without shame, judgment, or defensiveness.

We’ll dive into:
✔️ How to talk about porn with your partner without it turning into a fight
✔️ What to do if one of you watches and the other doesn’t
✔️ Creating boundaries that feel good for both of you

Action Step: Start a conversation with your partner—ask honest questions and listen with an open mind.

And if you want to go deeper, my 1:1 coaching is where we tackle the hard stuff. Let’s do the work together. Check out my calendar: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

Porn is everywhere, but is it helping or harming your relationship? My views on this have changed a lot over the years, and in this episode, I’m breaking down the real impact of porn on intimacy, communication, and connection.

We’ll cover:
✔️ The role of porn in relationships—is it a tool or a distraction?
✔️ How it can shape expectations and impact attraction
✔️ Signs it might be creating distance instead of connection

Action Step: Reflect on your own relationship with adult content—do you feel it's adding to or taking away from your intimacy?

Stay tuned for Part 2, where we’ll discuss how to navigate this conversation with your partner and build a deeper connection.

Rejection isn’t a reflection of your worth—it’s just redirection. But let’s be honest: It still stings.

Whether it’s in dating, relationships, or life in general, rejection can shake your confidence if you let it. But what if you could turn it into fuel for growth instead?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into how to handle rejection like a pro so you can bounce back stronger, more confident, and more resilient.

You’ll learn:

• Why rejection is never about you—it’s about fit.
• How to respond to rejection without spiraling.
• Why rejection in relationships happens—and how to navigate it with confidence.

Action Step: Reflect on a past rejection and find one lesson or growth opportunity in it.

Reframe rejection for good—grab my 21-Day Confidence Booster for Men at stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.

What makes a man irresistibly attractive? Spoiler alert: It’s not about looks, money, or flashy moves. Real confidence is what draws women in—without you even having to try.In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the difference between cockiness and genuine confidence and how you can show up in dating (or your relationship) as the self-assured, magnetic man you’re meant to be.

You’ll learn: The confidence traits that women actually find attractive.

How to own your presence without over-explaining or seeking validation.

What kills attraction—and how to stop doing it.

Action Step: Identify one way you can show up more confidently in your dating life this week.

Want to build attraction naturally? My 21-Day Confidence Booster for Men is here to help. Grab it at stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.

Are you holding yourself back because you're afraid to fail? Whether making a move in dating, speaking up in your relationship, or going after what you want, fear of failure keeps too many people stuck.

In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we discuss embracing risk without letting fear control you.

You’ll learn:
Why confidence isn’t about avoiding failure—it’s about handling it.
How small, everyday risks build unshakable self-assurance.
The role of risk in dating and relationships—and why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuck.

Action Step: Do something outside your comfort zone this week, even if it feels uncomfortable. Then, let me know how it goes!

Need help stepping into confidence? Join my 21-Day Confidence Booster for Men—packed with mindset shifts and daily affirmations. Grab it now for just $4.44 at stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.