What if the roles we play in our relationships — the hero, the villain, the victim — were keeping us stuck in cycles of disempowerment? 

In this episode of Faark The Shoulds, QuantiPapa McGill and QuantiMama Jodi get right into the heart of the drama triangle and how these roles shape our connections and self-perception. 

Why do we feel the need to fix, blame, or rescue? 

And what happens when we choose not to play those parts?

We explore the power of radical self-responsibility — that fierce and freeing moment when you stop waiting for someone else to save you and step into your own agency. 

How can we hold space for others without rushing in to fix their discomfort? 

What does it take to trust that people are whole enough to find their own way?

Our kids are often some of our greatest teachers in this. Through their frustrations and their triumphs, they shown us the magic of patience, presence, and letting people cycle through their own experiences. And TBH? It’s not always easy. Sometimes the hardest thing is standing back and offering support without stepping in — but that’s where growth happens.

This episode is a reflection on the stories we tell ourselves, the roles we assign to others, and the deep work of staying curious and compassionate. So, which role do you slip into most often? And what would it take to step out of the triangle entirely? Join us for this rich and real conversation — we promise, you’ll leave with plenty to ponder.

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