Nathan and Michaela share how a simple morning ritual and a second chair became the unlikely catalyst that's reshaping their marriage. By choosing curiosity over being right and speaking fears early instead of silently spiraling, they built a daily rhythm of connection that is rebuilding trust and intimacy. This episode unpacks the small, intentional choices any couple can use to move from seeing each other as adversaries to truly advocating for one another.

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Julia reveals how self-worth quietly sets the tone of a marriage, from generational scripts and early attachment to the Four M’s that sabotage intimacy, and shares the practices that turned a parent–child dynamic into a shoulder-to-shoulder partnership. She invites you to question core beliefs, feel and grieve, set boundaries, and choose truth as the highest form of intimacy.

• marriage as a space for love, not performance

• the Four M’s that erode connection: mothering, martyring, manipulating, managing

• why unworthiness normalises enabling, denial, and small betrayals

• using a life timeline to reveal patterns and build compassion

• moving from head beliefs to body-based healing and grief

• boundaries that end over-functioning and restore adult-to-adult relating

• redefining love as truth, responsibility, and mutual worth

• daily questions that link beliefs to thoughts, feelings, and actions

• choosing partnership over parent–child dynamics

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We trace Sari and Corey’s path from a decade of conflict avoidance to a practical, hopeful toolbox for intimacy. Addiction recovery, leadership at home and work, and the science of shame become catalysts for trust, curiosity, and partnership.

• early marriage shaped by addiction, loss, and avoidance
• the moral story that made conflict feel wrong
• loneliness as the hidden cost of peacekeeping
• honesty and transparency as recurring triggers
• leadership gaps across business and home
• the vacation planning pattern as a mirror
• “stay in your own backyard” as a core tool
• rewriting pessimistic stories with curiosity
• listening to the body to catch shame early
• choosing connection over being right
• why they invest in recurring breakthroughs

Please let us know in the comments what you're taking away from this episode

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Jordan and Heather share their transformative marriage journey, revealing how they moved from feeling stuck in a mess to experiencing profound growth in just one year. With Heather's 500% increase in hope and Jordan's 50% increase in emotional intelligence, they demonstrate how meaningful change happens through personal responsibility.

• Jordan describes how childhood trauma from his mother's suicide attempts created abandonment fears he carried into marriage
• Heather reveals the deep loneliness she felt despite being married to someone she loved
• Both partners identified their conflict patterns—Jordan avoiding, Heather pursuing—that created disconnection
• Learning to recognize and name emotions changed how they handle disagreements
• Self-responsibility became key as they learned to meet their own needs instead of demanding the other fill their voids
• Staying present during uncomfortable feelings rather than avoiding them transformed their ability to resolve conflicts
• Small shifts in perspective created significant improvements in communication and connection
• Growth isn't linear—they embrace the process with grace for being human

If you're feeling stuck in your marriage, consider joining one of Julia's Breakthrough retreats where couples learn practical tools to see and understand each other, even in the most difficult conversations.

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Julia welcomes Josh and Heather, a couple who have transformed their 23-year marriage through coaching and attending Breakthrough couples retreats over the past five years.

• Heather has gone from weekly angry outbursts to zero, while Josh has reduced his interrupting by 40%

• Their relationship once featured little communication, with Heather's outbursts driven by feelings of "not being enough"

• Josh describes how his need to control conversations stemmed from fear of abandonment and loneliness

• The couple experienced an "atomic bomb" moment when Josh's infidelity was revealed, forcing them to choose between real change or separation

• Heather learned to recognize her "impaired thinking" patterns and voice her needs instead of shutting down

• Josh discovered that what he thought was love (based on childhood observations) wasn't actually healthy connection

• Both emphasize that working on their individual relationships with themselves was crucial to healing their marriage

• They now describe their marriage as "exciting not dreaded" and find joy in the work of relationship

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Shane and Charity share their journey from deep connection as newlyweds to growing disconnection after military retirement, and how they found their way back to each other through a structured approach to communication. They reveal how transitions in life inevitably change marriages, requiring couples to "die" to their old relationship patterns in order for new, deeper connections to emerge.

• Married 10 years, both retired from military careers, experienced gradual disconnection despite deep love for each other
• Initially unsure why conversations felt one-sided and surface-level despite their efforts
• Charity felt resentful when trying different approaches to connect, while Shane was physically present but emotionally distracted
• Discovered the concept of "staying in your backyard" - focusing on what you can control rather than trying to change your partner
• Implemented a weekly "couple's connection" hour with a structured framework that includes dedicated connection time
• Created personalized "promises" to each other about their individual growth work
• Now experience greater empathy, creativity, and safety in their relationship
• Feel like "marriage nerds" who genuinely look forward to their connection sessions

"We must die to the marriage we have in order for a new one to emerge." Difficult conversations don't go away - they just get harder to have if we avoid them.

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In this episode of Hey Julia Woods, Julia dives deep into the often misunderstood concept of self-care—and how it can radically transform your marriage. Far beyond bubble baths and spa days, authentic self-care is about nurturing your spirit, soul, and body in a way that builds emotional resilience and deepens connection with your spouse.

Julia shares powerful insights from years of coaching couples through disconnection, codependency, and burnout. She unpacks how the lack of self-care leads to resentment, unhealthy patterns, and loneliness in marriage—and how learning to "mother yourself" can create space for healing, intimacy, and sustainable love.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your relationship, overextended in your role, or unsure how to care for yourself without feeling guilty, this episode is for you. You’ll learn practical ways to recognize emotional depletion, set healthy boundaries, and show up in your marriage from a place of fullness rather than need.

Whether you’re navigating marriage struggles, working on personal growth, or just want to build a stronger emotional foundation, this conversation will equip you with tools to reconnect with yourself—and your partner.

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Josh and Mandy share their journey from feeling profoundly disconnected in marriage to rediscovering genuine intimacy and connection through intentional conversations and personal growth.

• Previously at a level 8 loneliness despite living life together

• Discovered they were living "parallel lives" with clearly divided responsibilities

• Found looking into each other's eyes exposed they hadn't truly connected in years

• Learned to identify how their own self-criticism shaped how they heard their partner

• Recognized the danger of emotional apathy that had crept into their relationship

• Committed to weekly intentional conversations about difficult topics

• Navigated their first breakthrough by realizing they were having two different conversations

• Discovered it's okay to need each other rather than maintaining rigid independence

• Reported their loneliness level dropped from 8 to 2 in just 8-10 weeks

• Created a new vision for their marriage beyond what they had witnessed in their parents

If you're feeling disconnected in your marriage, know you're not alone. We invite you to take the first step by identifying one area of tension you can discuss with your spouse this week, and remember – the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for your marriage.

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Behn and Katie transformed their five-year marriage from emotional roommates to genuine partners in just two months by learning to communicate through their different emotional styles. They share their powerful journey of overcoming disconnection, victimhood patterns, and the fear of vulnerability.

• Behn struggled with recognizing and expressing his emotions

• Katie felt emotionally abandoned by Ben

• Their communication styles created conflict – Katie's was explosive and emotional, Behn logical and fact-based

• Their breakthrough moment came from focusing on themselves rather than trying to fix each other

• Learning to identify emotions daily created new patterns of connection

• They now view arguments as beneficial rather than destructive

• Community support from other couples normalized their challenges and provided motivation

• Traditional counseling focused on past baggage, while coaching helped them craft a different future

Now, through intentional work, they're building a relationship where conflict brings them closer together rather than pushing them apart.

Create the connection you long for by attending the next Breakthrough event 

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Where you can find me:

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