Hey! Let's Heal

From childhood trauma and brokenness to healing and hope, this honest conversation reveals how God restores us little by little through faith, community, and intentional healing.

In this episode, I’m sharing my celibacy testimony and how emotional honesty with God helped me confront shame, trauma, and the deeper needs I used to hide. My prayer is that my story reminds you that God can handle your truth, heal your heart, and help you trust Him with the desires you’re afraid to say out loud.

I’m sharing how to discern if he’s God-sent through peace, purpose, boundaries, and wisdom—so you can date with clarity, not anxiety.

Prepping For Marriage While You’re Healing from Childhood Trauma is my personal journey of healing and preparing for a godly marriage. Join me as I share the steps, struggles, and insights that have helped me grow, heal, and get ready for the love I deserve.

In this episode of Hey, Let’s Heal, we dive into how hidden anxiety, often rooted in family trauma or poor emotional regulation, can fuel burnout and block your goals. I break down the signs of over-functioning and under-functioning anxiety and share practical tools to help you heal and build lasting change. Let’s talk boundaries, vulnerability, and God’s peace as we transform burnout into growth. Tune in for healing insights, coaching resources, and a prayer to guide your journey.

Alexis M. Lott opens the “Hey, Let’s Heal” episode on breaking generational curses with prayer and a request to subscribe, share, and leave reviews. She cautions Christians against proudly claiming to be “the generational curse breaker,” sharing a prayer revelation that Jesus is the curse breaker and believers are beneficiaries of an inheritance, using an allegory of a billionaire child who already possesses wealth but must learn to receive and manage it. She connects trauma-driven perfectionism to works-based faith and shame, emphasizing rest in Christ’s finished work. She likens the Holy Spirit to a trusted financial advisor and “wonderful counselor” who provides guidance and spiritual gifts to help change generational patterns through partnership, identity as sons and daughters, and walking in freedom. She prays for listeners to receive or be freshly stirred by the Holy Spirit and previews a part two on consequences, shame, and guilt.

Are you struggling with adulting — paying bills, meeting deadlines, assuming responsibilities — and wondering if something is wrong with you? In this episode, Alexis unpacks the connection between unhealed trauma, chronic stress, and the shame of feeling like you haven't "grown up" yet. This is not a personal failing. This is your nervous system asking to heal.

Key Topics Covered

• -The difference between being a "late bloomer" and a trauma survivor
• How chronic stress and PTSD hijack the brain's ability to handle adult responsibilities
• Why trying harder and becoming more rigid actually makes things *worse*
• -The medical concept of "failure to thrive" and how it applies emotionally and cognitively
• How shame keeps you stuck — and how to get free from it
• Procrastination reframed: it's not a character flaw, it's your amygdala in freeze mode
• Why you cannot punish yourself into change — you can only *love* yourself into change
• Neuroplasticity and the renewing of the mind (Romans 12:2)
• 1 John 4:18 — perfect love drives out fear
• The power of emotional safety on cognitive function
• Why the enemy uses trauma to keep people from trusting others — and why community is essential to healing

Alexis, a trauma-trained executive coach and licensed minister, discusses how a “poverty spirit” can train people to hold onto broken-down possessions out of fear and shame, confusing this with being a faithful financial steward. Using her experience of receiving a lump sum of money while her 2020 Mac laptop was repeatedly crashing and malfunctioning, she explains how she struggled to allow herself to replace it despite having the funds, until her husband and others affirmed it was necessary.

Ever wondered why setting boundaries can be so challenging? In this episode we explore the art of boundary-making with those closest to us. Your path to healthier relationships starts here.

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00:00 Introduction and Purpose

01:07 The Importance of Boundaries

01:41 Prayer and Preparation

02:57 Defining Boundaries in Relationships

03:41 Internal Boundaries and Personal Growth

06:38 Challenges with Long-Standing Relationships

11:34 Trauma Responses and Boundaries

17:30 Biblical Guidance and Personal Testimony

21:50 Conclusion and Resources

We dive deep into understanding the impact of trauma, particularly childhood sexual abuse, and how it contributes to emotional addiction and stress responses in adulthood.