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Episode Summary

What happens when someone else's answered prayer looks like the one you've been waiting for?

In this heartfelt episode of TOC Talk: Table of Confidence, Dr. Dwan Bryant explores one of the most difficult—and least discussed—emotional experiences women face: celebrating another woman's success while quietly grieving a dream of their own.

Through the story of Dea, a leader navigating years of infertility while supporting a team member's pregnancy announcement, this episode invites listeners to confront the tension between joy and disappointment, celebration and sorrow, and comparison and compassion.

Healing isn't pretending the hurt doesn't exist. Healing is choosing not to let the hurt determine who you become.

If you've ever watched someone receive the promotion, opportunity, relationship, recognition, or blessing you longed for, this conversation will remind you that another woman's success does not diminish your worth or delay your purpose.

Your healing is revealed not when life finally goes your way—but in how you respond while you're still waiting.

In This Episode

• Why another woman's success can trigger unresolved grief
• The emotional complexity of celebrating while still hurting
• How comparison quietly erodes confidence and connection
• What it truly means to "hold her ladder"
• Why emotional maturity requires both honesty and generosity
• How healing allows us to celebrate others without abandoning ourselves

Reflection Questions

• Have you ever celebrated someone publicly while grieving privately?
• What emotions surfaced during that season?
• Is there someone whose success has been difficult for you to celebrate?
• What would it look like to hold her ladder without letting go of your own hope?
• How might God or life be developing your character while you're waiting?

This Week's Challenge

Find one intentional way to encourage another woman this week.

Send a text.
Celebrate her accomplishment.
Recommend her for an opportunity.
Pray for her success.

Then spend time reflecting on your own journey—not with comparison, but with compassion. Your story is still unfolding.

Resources

📖 Read the companion blog: Hold Her Ladder

📚 Featured Book: I'll Have What She's Having: A Novel About Women Leading, Loving, and Celebrating Sisterhood by Dr. Dwan Bryant

📝 Companion Resource: I'll Have What She's Having – 30-Day Reflection Journey

🌐 Learn more at DrDwanBryant.com

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Together, we're healing the woman behind the title—one honest conversation at a time.

Memorable Quote

"Healing isn't proven when life finally goes your way. Healing is revealed in how you respond while you're still waiting."

Thank you for joining us at the Table of Confidence. Until next time, choose healing over comparison, purpose over performance, and grace over resentment.

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1 Peter 4:10 - "Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God's grace in its various forms." (NIV)