Holding On to Faith After Spiritual Abuse

Guest Bios

Show Transcript

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J15p-DfWfjY

How do you hold on to your faith after experiencing abuse in a church? And how can you find Christian community when so many aspects of church trigger painful memories?

In this week’s podcast, Doug and Wendy Duncan join me to discuss their journey into—out of—what they say was an abusive and cultic Christian community.  

After being taught God was angry and punitive, they had to heal their image of God—and of themselves. And they needed to relearn Christian community—and figure out how to connect with Christians in a way that didn’t trigger bad memories.

Both Doug and Wendy are contributors to our premium for donors this month—Wounded Faith: Understanding and Healing from Spiritual Abuse. And though their experience may have been extreme, it has many parallels and insights for anyone who has experienced spiritual abuse.

In thoughtful detail, Doug, who’s a professional counselor, explains the hallmarks of thought control and the red flags to look for when exploring a new church. Wendy talks about her process of healing, and how to view God as our Good Shepherd, instead of a demanding disciplinarian.

This is an incredibly helpful podcast that’s extremely relevant, given the prevalence of abuse in the current Christian environment.

This Weeks Guests

Doug & Wendy Duncan

Doug Duncan, MS, LPC, is a professional counselor licensed in the state of Texas and practicing in the Dallas area. His wife, Wendy Duncan, is a licensed social worker who works as a recovery coach. Doug and Wendy specialize in helping people recover from religious or spiritual abuse, cult involvement, depression, phobias, and trauma. As former members of an aberrational group, the Duncans are sensitive to the particular concerns of people struggling to overcome the legacy of cultic and spiritual abuse. Show Transcript

SPEAKERS

JULIE ROYS, DOUG DUNCAN, WENDY DUNCAN

JULIE ROYS 00:00

So how can you hold on to your faith after experiencing abuse in the church? And how can you find Christian community when so many aspects of church trigger painful memories? Welcome to The Roys Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys. And joining me today is Doug and Wendy Duncan, a couple who say they spent decades in an abusive cultic community in Dallas. And in that community, they were taught that God was angry and punitive, and that their community was the only true bride that God loved. The year spent in that cultic group devastated not just Doug and Wendy sense of self, but their view of God and their ability to connect with other believers. In this podcast, the couple tell their journey into and out of this spiritually abusive community, and they share the road they took to recovery and the expertise they’ve gained over many years. Wendy is now a spiritual abuse recovery specialist. And Doug is a professional counselor specializing in helping people recover from religious trauma and cult involvement. This is going to be a fascinating and informative podcast and I’m so looking forward to our discussion.

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