Hopeful Aromantic

Why can’t life be easy? In this episode, I share some personal insights from implementing a flow audit in my life, using human design to experiment with reality creation, and living from an emotional baseline of ease. We all have agency when it comes to creating our lives, it starts with being conscious in our ability to choose. You’re more powerful than you think.

In this episode, we explore:

• Rethinking my process and how I show up online
• Using feelings as a metric and compass
• Surrender, letting go, trusting the process
• “Effortless” manifestation
• Challenging the story that things have to be hard
• Letting go of knowing “the how”
• Not letting the outcome interfere with the process
• Tuning into our intuition

Book mentioned:

• Laziness Does Not Exist, Devon Price

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You tried fixing the relationship, you tried fixing the dynamic at work, you tried fixing how you’re perceived… and it keeps showing up in another form. Sometimes it feels like you’re playing whack-a-mole with your problems, because resolving patterns requires you to zoom way, way, way out and find the thread that unravels everything.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why awareness of what’s wrong is just the start, but not enough
• Common lenses through which we see the world and how it limits us
• Band-aid solutions for bigger issues in relationships and at work
• Values, principles, and rules
• Working at the level of relationship vs. at the level of perspective
• Changing your perspective to change your life

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Please mark yourself safe from the Breakup Season that just passed!

Dominant culture has a lot to say about what it means to commit to someone in a romantic relationship and stick it out, no matter what. But what really matters when it comes to merging lives and building connection?

In this episode, we explore:

• How culture’s romanticization of pain and suffering in love creates conditions for exploitation
• The difference between work, effort, and exhaustion in relationships and how capitalism influences connection
• Why reaching relationship milestones can expose weak foundations
• Defining commitment, effort, love, and loving for yourself
• Moving away from external validation to internal
• Love and commitment as actions
• Discernment in your personal relationships

Resources mentioned:

• TikTok: @ atlasideas
• Capitalist Realism: Is There No Alternative?, Mark Fisher
• The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm
• Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, Carrie Jenkins
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy, Jessica Fern

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Liminal spaces are real and they live within us!

So you’ve decided to drop an old identity, an old way of being, and you’re ready to step into your new life, but how do you get from point A to point B? Self transformation and healing is messy, non-linear, and really fucking confusing. I’ll be sharing a bit about my own process, examples, and tools to help you along the way.

In this episode, we explore:

• How what you resist persists
• What may come up when you let go
• The mechanics of identity shifting
• What embodiment looks like
• Helpful tools and ideas for your jouhttps://drive.google.com/file/d/1FYIsY66RUSucj5xV__whmmoE6V9svB4f/view?usp=sharingrney
• Homework at 48:01 - Surrender

Resources mentioned:

• Core Values Exercise
• The Untethered Soul, Michael A. Singer
• The Surrender Experiment, Michael A. Singer
• IFS Embodiment meditation (on the Insight Timer App)

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Today we’re going through a non-exhaustive guide of questions you want to consider while getting to know people. You can also use these to re-evaluate any current relationships in your life to better understand who you choose to be with and how they do or don’t mesh with your values and preferences.

Surface level:

• What's their vibe?
• How do they speak about themselves?
• How do they speak about others?
• Do they take care of themselves?
• How do you feel around them?

Deeper levels:

• What do they care about?
• How do they make decisions?
• How do they take responsibility?
• How are they similar to the people closest to them?
• How are their boundaries?
• Do they respect themselves?
• How do they get their needs met?
• How do they reciprocate?

Even deeper levels:

• How do they handle conflict?
• What patterns repeat in their life? What is consistent?
• How do they handle a boundary set on them?
• How do they handle uncertainty?
• How do they handle change?
• How do they make meaning in their world?
• Do you feel like you’re being your fullest, most authentic self around them?

Resources mentioned:

• How to make friends? Study reveals how many hours it takes
• Set Boundaries, Find Peace, Nedra Glover Tawwab

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By now, AI has infiltrated just about every aspect of our lives to where it seems like there’s no escape. While CEO’s are threatening us to adopt or get left behind, our real human relationships are begging for us to log off, put the device away, and be here now. What’s the middle ground? And how can we shape what we want our futures to look like?

In this episode, we explore:

• How depending on AI for relationships will get you left behind
• Why you can’t rehearse real life with a robot
• How technology hasn’t solved our connection problems yet
• The risks of offloading essential skills for connection
• How changing your beliefs is the first step to changing reality
• Homework at 37:09 - Uncovering stories

Resources mentioned:

• Empire of AI, Karen Hao
• Encyclical Letter Magnifica Humanitas of His Holiness Pope Leo XIV on Safeguarding the Human Person in the Time of Artificial Intelligence
• The Rehearsal, Nathan Fielder (2022- )
• No, Artificial Intelligence is Not Conscious, Ted Chaing
• Claude’s Constitution
• The first step in getting rid of billionaires is to believe they don’t have as much power as you think they do - @femmefranktank on TikTok
• The AI Resist List
• Resist Against Authoritarianism

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What if discipline is just making a decision? What does it look like to move away from carceral, capitalist definitions of what it means to be disciplined toward a more neutral, self-led definition? In a world where we’re overtly and covertly told how to live, it’s more important than ever to be sovereign in how we move through our relationships.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why traditional definitions of discipline limit our authenticity
• Centering ourselves
• Being fully responsible
• Identity work as a foundation for discipline
• Tools for decision-making guidance
• Homework at 34:54 - Decision-making experiment

Resources mentioned:

• Discipline and Punish, Michel Foucault
• https://michel-foucault.com/key-concepts/
• Self Compassion, Kristin Neff
• Power Vs. Force, David R. Hawkins
• Energy Alignment Flowchart - @kemimarie

What is your relationship to discipline?When I say the word discipline how does the body respond?What comes up when you think about when you are engaging in a practice of discipline. What feelings come up, what thoughts, what is that shape it takes, has it changed over time? How does it look in practice?

When it comes to making decisions in your life, how does it feel to make decisions for yourself? Are there areas where it’s easier, harder?Do you find yourself struggling to decide, often, sometimes, seldom, never, maybe in certain situations over others. How about decisions where other people are involved?How does it feel to know whether something is a yes or a no? big decisions? Every day decisions?How about in your relationships? How does it feel to decide whether to pursue a connection with someone or not? How does it feel to decide on what you want in your relationships?How do you know the decisions are formed? What influences them? How does it feel to decide on how to behave in relationships with others?

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Settling is never worth it! To settle in relationships, career, business, or life usually comes from roots of scarcity and fear. Tapping into possibility and expanding your sense of trust and belief is what brings you into honest connections.

In this episode, we explore:

• Common beliefs behind settling
• Why it’s not worth trying to make unaligned situations work
• Fear of settling
• Clarifying your desire
• Sovereignty to build honest relationships
• Homework at 39:25 - Journal prompts:

1. What does enough mean to you?
2. How do you make decisions? How do you know you made the ‘right’ decision? How do you know you made the ‘wrong’ decision’?
3. What would your life look like if you never settled again? What would it feel like?
4. What can you do differently this week to get 1% closer to that life?

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When romance is prioritized over all other types of connection, we end up missing out on a lot. If you’re looking to cultivate real, authentic, connection, it starts with questioning the stories we’ve been sold about love and relationships so we can create space for possibility… including but not limited to, better friendships.

In this episode, we explore:

• The power of authentic connection
• Romance and relationship hierarchies
• Cultural norms that hinder deep friendship
• Ace perspectives on friendship
• Setting standards for friendship
• Homework at 40:11 - NEWS list

Resources mentioned:

• Emergent Strategy, adrienne maree brown
• The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy, Andie Nordgren
• Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord
• NEWS list example

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Being able to connect with others means first connecting deeply with yourself, by yourself. Labels and identities aside, what does it look like to fully be with oneself? To live life where you are at the center of it?

In this episode, we explore:

• Embracing periods of freedom and solitude
• Detachment
• Meeting your needs
• Life as a personal experiment
• Living in full presence
• Homework at 24:02 - Imagination experiment

Books mentioned:

• The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm
• You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For, Richard Schwartz

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