Why do so many of us struggle to simply receive a good moment?

In this Hot Flash, I explore a subtle pattern I’ve noticed recently:

Someone does something supportive of themselves
Something healthy.
Something they’ve been meaning to do.

And almost immediately… instead of staying with the goodness… they say:

“I should have done this sooner.”

It sounds harmless.

But underneath that sentence is often a quiet form of self-shaming that interrupts growth.

In this episode I talk about:

• Why “shoulding” is a red flag 
• Why the moment after growth matters 
• How celebration supports nervous system change 
• Why self-love includes allowing the win to feel good 

Because sometimes growth is not just doing the thing.

Sometimes growth is letting yourself receive the goodness of having done it.