Why do relationships sometimes hurt more than they should — and when is that pain actually telling the truth?

This episode explores how attachment patterns, negativity bias, and nervous-system threat detection amplify conflict in intimate relationships. You’ll hear why closeness raises emotional stakes, how anxious and avoidant strategies escalate under stress, and where insight helps — and where it can quietly turn into self-blame.

The episode also draws a clear line between nervous-system reactivity and real relational problems, emphasizing repair, structure, and accountability rather than minimizing harm.

A grounded, neuroscience-informed look at why love alone doesn’t regulate relationships — and what actually creates stability under stress.

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