Ask yourself what’s important to you. “You’ve got to look at your previous resolutions and ask yourself, ‘Is this really a high value to me?’” Take a peek at your week, and see where you spend your time and energy. That’s what you care about. It might be your children, for example. Consider how weight loss might affect your children. Would you be able to play with them more? Would the kids worry about your health less? Use that as motivation to achieve your goal.

Lose the shame. One of the first things to do, deal with depression and unresolved anger, and check in with yourself emotionally. Often, people fail at goals because of self-sabotage. Ask yourself, “What needs to be released in order for me to accomplish this goal?” or, “Do I deserve to achieve this ? we can be too hard on ourselves when we don’t achieve goals, so begin with positivity. “Set goals that stretch you, but not so far you might snap,” he said. Find and release that emotional baggage.

Set realistic and specific goals. You’re not going to be on time to everything the very first week you try. If you set an unrealistic expectation, the minute that you fail, you may give up. Immediately changing every item in your diet might be unrealistic. Shifting diet and exercise involves everything from groceries to finding a gym. I would suggest putting a number with the goal. Make your resolutions specific and measurable: “I will take a walk that lasts at least 20 minutes two days each week” or “I will put at least $25 into my savings account after every paycheck,” instead of “I will exercise more” or “I will save more.” Write them down, and put them in your purse or wallet.