Our self-concept is always relational, so how we see ourselves as little ones depends on those around us. Our brain adapts to what it understands as the best way for us to survive. Behaviors that we receive positive feedback for are maintained while those that generate criticism are suppressed. We grow up without a point of comparison, often making it difficult to identify any flaws in the ways we were molded. As a result, and without noticing it, many of us confine ourselves inside invisible walls that keep us stuck. And, until we recognize what’s not working for us and begin to consider the alternatives, we remain inmates living in our own invisible prisons. 

In this episode, we have an eye-opening and soul-touching chat with Dr. Angela Huebner; psychotherapist, executive coach, writer, and speaker. Angela holds a BA in Psychology from the University of Nebraska, as well as an MA and Ph.D in Family Studies & Human Development from the University of Arizona. 

We met and bonded with Angela when the three of us were students together in our wonderful International Coaching Federation Certification Training Program, FastTrack Coach Academy. 

Angela has over 30 years of experience working in the mental health field as a professor, researcher, and in private practice. For 17 years, she was a tenured associate professor in the Department of Human Development’s Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Virginia Tech University. Her work included teaching clinical and research courses, supervising graduate students in their clinical work, and publishing research related to military families and adjustment. Angela also has multiple mental health certifications; Internal Family Systems Therapist, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, Tapping, Hypnosis, and Gottman Marriage Therapy, just to name a few. 

We had a deeply meaningful conversation about the invisible walls in our minds, including how to acknowledge and deal with them. Angela shared some brilliant insights on how our childhood experiences impact our lives without us noticing them. We spoke about our beliefs, the three planes of connection, intuition, the neural components of our emotions, and much more. Angela also described the difference between traditional therapy and coaching and asked an excellent question for our next guest. 

Some Questions We Ask:

• Where does one even start in trying to recognize that they're in this invisible prison in the first place? (10:48)
• What's the challenge for us in giving up our old beliefs? Why are we hanging on to them? (20:03)
• Can you speak about how your work allows us to step into other pieces of self or get in tune with other fragments of self like our intuition? (23:56)
• What do you recommend as a starting point for breaking down these invisible walls? (44:15)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• How to recognize your invisible walls (10:54)
• Why it’s hard to change beliefs that have seemingly served us well (19:42)
• The three planes of connection; self, source, and others (24:10)
• It is not about creating our vision; it is about remembering it (34:36)
• The gifts that come with getting our house in order and doing the work to sort out who we are (43:09)

Resources:

• Angela J. Huebner website
• FastTrack Coach Academy website

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