To whom much is given much is required. That means along our journey in life somewhere God blessed you to be a blessing to others but in his name. Our lives are not our own but our lives belong to God not man. We are our brothers keeper and are supposed to uplift one another however not at the expense of my relationship with God. You can't expect me to compromise my walk with God to suit or please you. Not sure how any of us have time for that anyway because we are responsible for our OWN soul salvation. Our soul needs saving living in this world and by any means necessary following God's Word, his Will, his way, and through his power (the annointing of Holy Spirit) I will walk this walk and talk the talk. This is what helps me in ever area of my life and I can't let it go.. The problem that I've experienced and that I've seen others do that we can longer allow is dumbing ourselves down when it comes to preaching the word of God or doing anything for God and comprising what we belive in to please others.. because I have nothing in my flesh left to offer you that I'm not already trying to die to daily to become a better person. I feel a lot times you don't want to hear what folks have to say anyway folks want to come to people and vent and dump mess without the responsible of what God has to say about it. Without taking accountability for their lives. Someone at some point needs to pray and have some positivity going on in the conversation. The problem is people have stopped wanting to hear sound advice but I'm not going to be a spiritual trash can either at this point  I don't want my response to be nasty or negative so let me respond in the best way I know how and that's with scripture. Let me respond in a manner that will warrant us keeping our relationship/ friendship. You cant expect the people you love or the people you call your friends to always tell you what you want to hear we need to be able to accept constructive criticism. We should be teachable and able to hear the bitter words of a friend than the sweet words of an enemy. If there is something that needs to be said but you don't believe God is telling you to say it but you feel that what you said is justified you need to stop the conversation. If you believe that you don't have anything to offer a person in this conversation you need to know when to say hey I don't know the answer and for the sake of protecting my peace although I love you I don't have the capacity to handle this right now so let's pray or say let me pray about this and you pray and let's reconnect later. You don't have to be a spiritual trash can to be someone's friend and that goes for family too. You can't always expect folks to take on your problems but you don't want to really hear a sound solution you just want to hear yourself talk you just want to pull from someone else's annointing knowing you will leave the conversation feeling refreshed and because this person cares they leave feeling all heavy no the devil is a lie. No Ma'am no sir no more. If I know you are someone that has a habit of telling me Something and you want my opinion but you want to tailor my response to what you want to hear I'm not the person for you to talk to because I'm going to find some scripture some inspiration so motivatation some testimony somewhere to help you but I'm not going to not tell you the truth especially if God does lay something on my heart to tell you. The thing is I expect the same back if I'm having a moment because who doesn't don't give me no watered-down response especially if you know me. Tell me what I need to hear not want I want to hear or what you think I want to hear. If you close to me check me because I'm only human I'm not perfect I have down and weak moments too. No one and I mean no one is exempt from life's problems but God said he would make a way of escape from them all. I believe we can be sent or folks can be sent in our lives to help us get free but I'm not your way of escape.