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How Emotional Intelligence Provides Space for Genuine Attraction with Ed Baxter
After embarking on this journey to improve my own emotional intelligence, I’ve found that the lack thereof not only resulted in stagnation within my career, but in my romantic relationships as well. I didn’t know myself, I didn’t know what values to confidently stand behind, I wasn’t aware of, nor was I expressive with my emotions, and now I’ve realized, that was what was unattractive to everyone.
I’ve had many failed attempts at trying to “generate” attraction with women. Because women didn’t seem to be attracted to me, I thought I had to create a spark when meeting women. I tried to memorize the tactics, or lines, or ways to manipulate the interaction so that they would like me. Obviously, that didn’t work either.
I’m still trying to figure things out for myself, with the help from Ed Baxter, a men’s relationship coach I found on Facebook. We discuss how we should focus on ourselves first, and on how we think and feel about ourselves before focusing on others.
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[5:31] How settling for someone creates gaps and insecurities in what you want and need from a relationship
[11:38] Create meaningful relationships by separating your identity as an introvert from the label of shyness
[13:40] Introversion and social anxiety are mutually exclusive
[16:28] How can introverts put ourselves out there more?
[19:29] Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but of courage
[24:52] The tactics rarely generate genuine attraction
[26:07] What can we do to develop deeper connections?
[30:42] If you want a more connected relationship, you have to connect back to your own emotions and intuition
[34:17] As long as you have faith in your authenticity, you can detach yourself from outside judgments
[39:03] Stand out from the crowd in dating by being open, calm, and present with her and the woman inside
[41:43] You can't feel the attraction when you're caught up in judgments
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After embarking on this journey to improve my own emotional intelligence, I’ve found that the lack thereof not only resulted in stagnation within my career, but in my romantic relationships as well. I didn’t know myself, I didn’t know what values to confidently stand behind, I wasn’t aware of, nor was I expressive with my emotions, and now I’ve realized, that was what was unattractive to everyone.
I’ve had many failed attempts at trying to “generate” attraction with women. Because women didn’t seem to be attracted to me, I thought I had to create a spark when meeting women. I tried to memorize the tactics, or lines, or ways to manipulate the interaction so that they would like me. Obviously, that didn’t work either.
I’m still trying to figure things out for myself, with the help from Ed Baxter, a men’s relationship coach I found on Facebook. We discuss how we should focus on ourselves first, and on how we think and feel about ourselves before focusing on others.
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[5:31] How settling for someone creates gaps and insecurities in what you want and need from a relationship
[11:38] Create meaningful relationships by separating your identity as an introvert from the label of shyness
[13:40] Introversion and social anxiety are mutually exclusive
[16:28] How can introverts put ourselves out there more?
[19:29] Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but of courage
[24:52] The tactics rarely generate genuine attraction
[26:07] What can we do to develop deeper connections?
[30:42] If you want a more connected relationship, you have to connect back to your own emotions and intuition
[34:17] As long as you have faith in your authenticity, you can detach yourself from outside judgments
[39:03] Stand out from the crowd in dating by being open, calm, and present with her and the woman inside
[41:43] You can't feel the attraction when you're caught up in judgments
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Subscribe to get your free list of 11 EQ exercises, and to get podcast and blog updates at http://victorung.com/subscribe.
Follow me on Instagram: http://instagram.com/_victorung.
Clap for me on Medium: http://medium.com/@victorung.
--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victorung/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Get full access to Human Up at humanup.substack.com/subscribe