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When is the last time you and your partner had a real conversation — not about the kids, the schedule, or what needs to happen this week? If you're struggling to answer that, you're not alone, and you're not failing. You're just caught in a pattern that almost every high-achieving couple falls into sooner or later.

In this episode, Katie gets honest about what she calls the "great logistics era" of her own marriage — the season when everything looked great on paper and she and her husband were quietly becoming strangers. Because here's the thing: the same drive that makes high achievers so successful at work can hollow out your connection at home if you let it run unchecked.

Today you'll learn:

• Why most long-term couples accidentally become co-CEOs of a household corporation — and stop being partners
• What Dr. John Gottman's research says about what actually erodes connection over time (it's not the big fights)
• The difference between "project mode" and "connection mode" — and why mixing them is quietly killing your intimacy
• Three practical actions you can take this week to start shifting the dynamic

This episode isn't about blaming either of you. It's about seeing the pattern clearly — because once you can see it, you can change it.

Ready to stop winging it? Katie's six-week live program, the Weekly Reset, starts June 10. It gives you and your partner a real framework for check-ins that actually stick — with live coaching and community support. Early bird pricing ends June 1. Learn more and register here.

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