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Here is something I don't think people expect me to say. It took me 14 years to actually feel confident. Like genuinely, deeply, not-faking-it confident.
The girl you see on social media selling makeup, running a beauty empire, coaching thousands of women? She spent most of her life deeply insecure about her looks, her capability, and her money. She faked confidence so hard that it came across as obnoxious. And she spent years comparing herself to everyone around her while quietly falling apart inside.
In Episode 4 I am getting into all of it. How comparison steals your confidence before you even realize it is happening. How growing up Filipino in a predominantly white small town in Michigan left me feeling like the sore thumb in every room I walked into. How a comment about my love handles in middle school sent me to get lipo as an adult. How I spent the early years of motherhood sobbing over my baby's milestones because I was too busy comparing myself to every other mom around me.
And the three seasons of my life where I finally proved to myself that I was capable of more than where I came from.
Confidence is not something you are born with. It is not linked to money or status or a perfect body. It is something you build. And I am going to show you how.
New episodes every week. Subscribe 💜
📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:
Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/
TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera
Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/
📲 Follow Brandi:
Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/
TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty
Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/
About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_
Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi
🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com
0:00 Welcome — diving into confidence after 14 years of building it
0:27 What confidence actually is — not what social media says it is
1:36 Why she's sharing her insecurities — so you can see yourself
2:42 The one thing that stops women from finding success
3:46 Her biggest insecurity growing up — her looks
4:23 Growing up Filipino in Michigan — looking different from everyone
5:56 Third grade gym class — the "Chinese eyes" moment that stuck
7:28 The weight insecurity — Hollister jeans, love handles, and competitive dance
9:15 How a childhood insecurity led to lipo as an adult
10:31 Insecurity 2 — capability: believing where I came from was the ceiling
12:00 Insecurity 3 — finances and hiding past-due bills as a kid
14:31 What fake confidence looks like from the outside
16:20 Comparison — the thief of joy and creator of false reality
16:49 Her love-hate relationship with social media
18:08 Comparing herself to other moms — the beach condo story
19:30 Hudson's milestones vs. her niece — sobbing over a baby who couldn't sit up
23:23 Goals set from comparison not calling — retiring Casey before he wanted it
27:08 Confidence does not come from other people's perception of you
28:25 Motivation vs. discipline — what actually builds confidence over time
30:27 Fixate on what God has for you — stop the hamster wheel of comparison
31:31 Three seasons that proved she was capable — turning points
32:30 Season 1 — moving to Florida in 2011 with $2,000 and a prayer
35:02 Season 2 — meeting Casey and breaking the generational mold
37:00 Season 3 — 2020, the pandemic, and her business going 10x
40:07 U-Haul to Georgia — laying on a mattress and feeling proud
41:31 When her confidence finally stopped being a performance
43:37 Teaching her kids — don't ask if they like you, ask how you feel
44:35 Confidence is not born, it is built — and it comes in seasons
45:31 Confidence grows with faith — actionable steps to get there
46:54 Closing — it is never too late to blossom into what God is calling you
how to build confidence | comparison and insecurity | confidence for women | self esteem podcast | personal growth women | stop comparing yourself | women empowerment podcast | Christian women podcast | millennial mom podcast | social media and confidence
#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #confidence #selfesteem #stopcomparing #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #personalgrowth #faithjourney
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By takinglifebytherainesHere is something I don't think people expect me to say. It took me 14 years to actually feel confident. Like genuinely, deeply, not-faking-it confident.
The girl you see on social media selling makeup, running a beauty empire, coaching thousands of women? She spent most of her life deeply insecure about her looks, her capability, and her money. She faked confidence so hard that it came across as obnoxious. And she spent years comparing herself to everyone around her while quietly falling apart inside.
In Episode 4 I am getting into all of it. How comparison steals your confidence before you even realize it is happening. How growing up Filipino in a predominantly white small town in Michigan left me feeling like the sore thumb in every room I walked into. How a comment about my love handles in middle school sent me to get lipo as an adult. How I spent the early years of motherhood sobbing over my baby's milestones because I was too busy comparing myself to every other mom around me.
And the three seasons of my life where I finally proved to myself that I was capable of more than where I came from.
Confidence is not something you are born with. It is not linked to money or status or a perfect body. It is something you build. And I am going to show you how.
New episodes every week. Subscribe 💜
📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:
Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/
TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera
Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/
📲 Follow Brandi:
Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/
TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty
Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/
About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_
Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi
🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com
0:00 Welcome — diving into confidence after 14 years of building it
0:27 What confidence actually is — not what social media says it is
1:36 Why she's sharing her insecurities — so you can see yourself
2:42 The one thing that stops women from finding success
3:46 Her biggest insecurity growing up — her looks
4:23 Growing up Filipino in Michigan — looking different from everyone
5:56 Third grade gym class — the "Chinese eyes" moment that stuck
7:28 The weight insecurity — Hollister jeans, love handles, and competitive dance
9:15 How a childhood insecurity led to lipo as an adult
10:31 Insecurity 2 — capability: believing where I came from was the ceiling
12:00 Insecurity 3 — finances and hiding past-due bills as a kid
14:31 What fake confidence looks like from the outside
16:20 Comparison — the thief of joy and creator of false reality
16:49 Her love-hate relationship with social media
18:08 Comparing herself to other moms — the beach condo story
19:30 Hudson's milestones vs. her niece — sobbing over a baby who couldn't sit up
23:23 Goals set from comparison not calling — retiring Casey before he wanted it
27:08 Confidence does not come from other people's perception of you
28:25 Motivation vs. discipline — what actually builds confidence over time
30:27 Fixate on what God has for you — stop the hamster wheel of comparison
31:31 Three seasons that proved she was capable — turning points
32:30 Season 1 — moving to Florida in 2011 with $2,000 and a prayer
35:02 Season 2 — meeting Casey and breaking the generational mold
37:00 Season 3 — 2020, the pandemic, and her business going 10x
40:07 U-Haul to Georgia — laying on a mattress and feeling proud
41:31 When her confidence finally stopped being a performance
43:37 Teaching her kids — don't ask if they like you, ask how you feel
44:35 Confidence is not born, it is built — and it comes in seasons
45:31 Confidence grows with faith — actionable steps to get there
46:54 Closing — it is never too late to blossom into what God is calling you
how to build confidence | comparison and insecurity | confidence for women | self esteem podcast | personal growth women | stop comparing yourself | women empowerment podcast | Christian women podcast | millennial mom podcast | social media and confidence
#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #confidence #selfesteem #stopcomparing #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #personalgrowth #faithjourney