Non-black people across the U.S. are responding to the recent Black Lives Matter protests by taking time to reflect on their own internalized prejudices. But what about dating and sex? Should we also be taking time to reflect on our dating and sex habits, whether that be porn or our dating bios?

In this episode of How I F*ck, we speak with Ekelle, a black pansexual woman who's experienced othering and discrimination on dating apps and in real life. Ekelle also describes to us why sexual liberation is especially important for black women and how seeing black people killed frequently on the news affects her dating life.