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What if your independence isn’t a strength—but a shield? 💔 A 28-year-old listener has never been in a romantic relationship, and she wonders if years of self-reliance have made her “too independent” to ever need (or want) marriage.

With rejection scars, a deep love of solo life, and questions about purpose, partnership, and faith, she asks: Is marriage more than companionship? Or is it simply not for everyone?

We talk:

✨ Why independence can morph from healthy to isolating if it keeps you from risking intimacy

💡 The difference between “prescribed marriage” and truly desiring a covenant partnership

🙏🏾 How encounters with God reshape our view of self-worth, sex, and relationships

🌱 What it looks like to prepare for marriage without idolizing it—or fearing it

❤️ Why learning to receive love can be harder (and holier) than giving it

Have you ever worried you’re too independent for love? Episode 264 is live—tap in and share your story in the comments!

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“Help Me Get My Husband Off the Couch”

For the last five years, one wife has been going to bed alone—while her husband voluntarily sets up camp on the couch 🛋️.

What started as late-night gaming turned into a full-blown routine, even when they lived in a studio apartment just three feet apart.

Now she’s asking: Is this just a bad habit… or a deeper signal about intimacy, stress, and their marriage?

We talk:

💤 Why “comfort” isn’t the real reason many men retreat to the couch

🔥 How sexual frustration and unspoken resentment can quietly drive distance

🛑 Why calling it “just a bad habit” misses the deeper layers of disconnection

👀 The possibility of porn, avoidance, or hidden nighttime routines fueling the cycle

❤️ Why a marriage bed matters—not just for sleep, but for connection, vulnerability, and unity

Ever had a partner avoid the bed? Did it turn out to be comfort… or conflict? Episode 263 is live—tap in and share your story in the comments! #HowMarriedAreYou #MarriageTalk #CouchConfessions

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"Am I going to be a lazy mom?”

A 23-year-old listener is glowing with excitement about her first pregnancy 👶🏾—but beneath the joy, fear lingers. Raised tough, she worries she won’t be nurturing enough, won’t have the energy, won’t measure up. Her 25-year-old husband is steady and supportive, but she’s left asking: How do I step into motherhood when doubt whispers louder than confidence?

We talk:

💡 Why parenting starts in the womb—and how small daily choices already shape connection

🛑 The lie of the “lazy mom” and why rest is a requirement, not a weakness

💸 Facing financial fears with faith and resilience instead of scarcity thinking

🍼 How breastfeeding, bonding, and even “missed invitations” become training grounds for grace

🌱 Learning to parent yourself first so you can parent your child with confidence and compassion

Have you ever doubted you’d be “enough” as a parent? How did you find your footing?

Episode 262 is live—join the conversation and share your story! #HowMarriedAreYou #ParentingWithGrace #Episode262

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A listener married young and in love; years later, pregnant with a toddler at home, she’s watching her husband drift from faith, hide the marriage online, and surround himself with bad influences. Birthdays and Mother’s Days go ignored, passwords are gone, and therapy suggests an ultimatum. Is she clinging to hope—or ignoring what she already knows?

We talk:

🕊️ Redemption starts with repentance and confession—and two willing people.

🚩 Public secrecy is a signal: removing your spouse from socials isn’t “privacy,” it presents you as single—trust what that communicates.

🧭 Gaslighting check: move as if you know the truth, and seek clarity wisely (community, receipts, even a P.I. if safe)—but remember, you can’t unsee what you find.

👥 Character over position: look for someone submitted to mentors, community, and growth; that’s more telling than job titles or labels.

🧩 Forgiveness ≠ reconciliation: you can extend grace without staying; with kids, co-parenting may continue, but covenant requires honesty and change.

Have you ever had to choose clarity over comfort in a relationship? What did repentance look like in real life? Episode 261 is live—tap in and share your story.

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Is wanting vulnerability the same as being ready to hold it? A newlywed (90-something days in!) loves her husband but admits his past trauma makes openness slow. Then the Holy Spirit hits her with two checks: “Can you handle what he gives you?” and “Steward well what he gives you.” We unpack what “safe space” really costs: capacity, patience, and practice. 💛

We talk:

🧩 Capacity ≠ desire: Wanting all the feelings isn’t the same as being able to carry them—growth over pass/fail.

📦 Steward what you have: Treat disclosures like a fragile package—follow “handling instructions,” even if unspoken.

🤫 Sometimes love is quiet: Hold space, resist fixing, let him finish, respond later with care.

🧑🏾‍🤝‍🧑🏾 He needs his people: Spouse ≠ only container—think therapist, mentors, men’s community, real accountability.

🛡️ Protect each other & the mission: Boundaries are holy; honesty and safety can coexist.

How did you build capacity to be a safer place for your partner’s truth? Drop a tip for the wedding party. Episode 260 is live—tap in!

A brother wrote in after a three-year long-distance rollercoaster where tough talks turned into silence and her parents turned hostile. He prayed for an approval and called it a sign while every other sign said no. We laugh, we side-eye, and we keep it loving but honest. 😂🙏🏾

We talk:

🙅🏾‍♂️ Stop over-spiritualizing dating. God is not a vending machine or a green light on command.

🚫🏠 Racism in your own home is a hard no. You cannot change being Black and you shouldn’t try to survive where you aren’t respected.

🤐 Silence is not depth. Stonewalling and hiding are patterns, not personality quirks.

🎆 Chemistry is fireworks. 🧯 Compatibility is fire safety. Choose the relationship that chooses you back.

🧹 Unfollow, block, and heal. Get a real therapist and find mentors 10 to 15 years ahead in the season you want, where mutual respect is obvious.

Ever turned a red flag into a “sign” and had to course-correct later? Tell us how you knew. Episode 259 is live.

A 27-year-old listener in a three-year poly relationship wants simple guardrails—tell me when you’re out with someone else, if you’re spending the night, and shut it down if they try to edge me out. He resists, agrees begrudgingly, then doesn’t follow through. She’s financially stuck, sharing a cramped place he pays for, and wonders when it’s time to plan her exit. 🛡️💔

We talk:

• “You wrote us knowing where we stand. Our counsel is to get out.”
• “He wants more. You want depth. What you desire and what you accept are two different things. One has to change.”
• “You’re asking for safety, transparency, communication, covering, stability. Those are far easier to build with one person.”
• “If you truly want that lifestyle, seek voices who live it. We don’t. Our vision is covenant and wholeness.”
• “The goal in marriage is loving each other into fullness. Fragments won’t make anyone whole.”

Have you ever stayed where your needs weren’t respected because leaving felt impossible? What boundary finally moved you toward safety?

Episode 258 is live—tap in and tell us your story.

Is God’s will bigger than girl code? ✝️

When a listener in her church circle and her friend’s ex catch real feelings, the trio dynamic—and a friendship—hangs in the balance. She’s prayed the feelings away, he confessed he wants to pursue her, and everyone’s watching to see whether wisdom or worry wins. 💔

We talk:

• “They didn’t guard their hearts.” Staying close after a breakup kept hope alive and blurred boundaries.
• “Church culture can blur the lines.” You can’t call dibs on people, and friendship circles can make feelings messy.
• “You want to be with somebody who wants to be with you.” Maturity releases what isn’t yours and resists possessiveness.
• “Let the Lord’s voice be the loudest in your ear.” Not girl code or guy code—God’s guidance first.
• “You’re free to pursue if it’s mutual.” Ask, “What’s your plan and how will this be different,” and accept that you might “lose a friend for your future husband.”

Have you ever dated within the friend group? How did you balance loyalty and love? Episode 257 is live—tap in and tell us where you draw the line.

What do you do when the man you want to be feels out of reach? 💍🇯🇲

Recorded in Montego Bay while Glen and Yvette celebrate 15 years 🎉, a listener writes in before his own 10-year anniversary: he’s lost motivation, avoids hard conversations, and feels inconsistent in faith and intimacy after weight gain. Without a positive male role model, he’s under a heavy cloud and asking how to lead his family God’s way. ✝️

• We talk:Glen shares that year 10 was rough too; therapy in 2020 helped him initiate sex and hard conversations again. 🧠💬
• “Father yourself”: restructure your inner voice with accountable self-talk and kindness while you grow the man. 🗣️❤️🌱
• Make it practical: schedule sex 📅, commit to a 30-minute walk 🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️, and listen to a podcast together to spark real dialogue. 🎧
• Progress over perfection: trim TV and gaming 📺🎮, make one right decision at a time ✅, and stop treating growth like a deadline. ⏳
• Partnership in real life: give your spouse room to change 🔄, ask specifically for what you need 📝, and contribute to comfort without mind-reading. 🧩

Have you ever rebuilt confidence in the middle of a marriage? 💬 What first step actually moved the needle for you?

Episode 256 is live from Jamaica 🇯🇲 during Glen and Yvette’s 15th-anniversary trip 🎉.

What do you owe a friend when romance enters the chat? 💔

A listener matched with a guy and told her girls how excited she was—only to learn weeks later that one of them secretly liked him, talked to him, and went on a date. The friend admitted it only after he ghosted her and showed zero remorse. Now the question is clear: where’s the line between shooting your shot and protecting the friendship?

We talk:

• Take inventory: this isn’t the friend you share that kind of news with.
• Friend vs. homie: keep the group vibe if you want, but downgrade access to your heart.
• If someone says “I’m hurt,” you acknowledge it—even if you disagree.
• Loyalty matters: don’t compete with your friends for attention, affection, or “the cupcake.”
• Years don’t equal trust: 15 years of history doesn’t excuse shady choices.

Ever had a friend cross the line on dating etiquette? 🚩

Tell us where you draw the boundary. Episode 255 is live—drop your take in the comments! #HowMarriedAreYou #Friendship #GirlCode #Podcast

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