How Married Are You?!

Your little sister is about to marry someone you believe is completely wrong for her. Do you speak up… or mind your business?This week, a 29-year-old woman writes in about her 20-year-old sister, whose boyfriend is preparing to propose on her 21st birthday.She doesn't like the relationship.Her sister has changed. She believes she's settling. She worries she's losing pieces of herself trying to hold onto her first love. And now she's wondering whether she has a responsibility to intervene before her sister makes a life-changing decision.But that opens up a MUCH bigger conversation between us.How young is too young to get married?Yvette got married at 23 and looking back, she believes there were parts of herself she was still figuring out.Then Glen asks an even harder question:What if telling somebody the truth costs you your relationship with them?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

What happens when you want to change the person you love, but you haven't done the work to change yourself?This week on How Married Are You?!, a young man writes in asking for advice about his relationship with his girlfriend and her three-year-old daughter.He loves them both, but he's struggling with how his girlfriend parents, how she manages her responsibilities, and what their future together might look like.But as we continue reading his email, we discover there's A LOT more going on.Infidelity. Gambling. Unresolved childhood wounds. Financial struggles. And some confessions his girlfriend may not even know about yet.Have you ever been so focused on what your partner needed to change that you overlooked the work you needed to do on yourself?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

In Episode 304 of How Married Are You?!, what starts as a conversation about our podcast, our dreams, and the future of our family turns into a much deeper conversation about ambition, creative control, and what happens when one spouse feels like their voice is getting lost in the life you're building together.NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/YiIysBmDlquCa3KHcw5J?c=wQtLwyPfHMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

What do you do when your spouse is depressed…and everything you know how to do is try to fix it?A newlywed husband wrote in because his wife is battling depression. He loves her, he wants to help her, and he’s realizing that giving her solutions may not be what she needs from him.That opened up a much bigger conversation for us about our own marriage: how we experience depression differently, giving each other space without disappearing, learning your spouse’s triggers, inviting instead of instructing, and knowing when your spouse needs support that you simply can’t provide by yourself.

She thought sex would be the EASY part of marriage.Then she got married.Almost a year into her marriage, a listener writes in because intimacy hasn't become what she imagined it would be. Her first sexual experience with her husband left her disappointed—not only physically, but by the way he responded to her in such a vulnerable moment.They've talked about it. He's apologized.But something still doesn't feel right.She says she doesn't feel emotionally safe with her husband. He believes spending time together, watching things she enjoys, and participating in her interests should create connection.But she's looking for something deeper.She wants him to study her.To be curious about her.To WANT to know her.And that disconnect has started showing up in their sex life.But we had to ask a different question:Is emotional safety actually the problem?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

We're back.After taking our first real break in a long time, we're finally back for Season 301 of How Married Are You?This season brings some big changes for our family. We're sharing updates on the kids starting a hybrid homeschool program, what this new season looks like for our marriage, and why we've decided to invest even more intentionally into this community.Then we dive into one of the most difficult listener questions we've received.A woman is weeks away from her wedding, but she's wondering if she's about to marry the wrong man.She loves him...…but she doesn't respect him.He lacks ambition.He depends on the women around him.He once told her she would be "the last Black woman" he'd ever date.So the question becomes:Can love survive when respect is missing?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

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Not every conflict in marriage is about who's right.Sometimes it's about two people trying their best... while carrying different priorities.In this episode of How Married Are You?, what starts as a disagreement over youth hockey and Girl Scouts turns into a much bigger conversation about marriage, ambition, parenting, family systems, and what happens when every "good thing" begins competing for your attention.After the main episode, we answer a listener's question about navigating different parenting styles when one parent feels the other is creating unnecessary stress for the kids. We unpack how we've learned to disagree without undermining each other, why presenting a united front matters, and how we've handled parenting mistakes over the years.Then the conversation takes an unexpected turn as we react to a viral clip asking whether we'd ever get married again if something happened to one of us. It's an honest discussion about the work marriage requires, why we value what we've built together, and what 16 years of choosing each other has taught us about love, commitment, and legacy.If you enjoy the deeper, unfiltered conversations that don't always make the public episode, join us on Patreon for the full aftershow.PRE SAVE NEW SONG SUGAR WATER JULY 7thhttps://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfnResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

How do you keep fighting for a marriage when it feels like you're the only one trying?In this episode, we talk about emotional neglect, vulnerability, communication, and why a lack of intimacy is often a symptom not the root issue. We also share our thoughts on the emotional weight of raising Black children in today's climate and how recent events have impacted our family.Patreon AftershowAfter the main episode, we have a much more personal conversation.We unpack the emotional impact of recent events—including the Carmelo Anthony case, Yvette being called a racial slur in public, and how those experiences are changing the way we think about raising our children.We also talk honestly about trust, fear, Black community, parenting in predominantly white spaces, and the difficult balance between protecting our kids and preparing them for the world they'll inherit.This is one of our more vulnerable Patreon conversations, and we hope it gives you a deeper look into what we're processing behind the scenes.Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7New Single SUGAR WATER OUT JULY 7th PRE SAVE NOWhttps://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfnRelease Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/wtiRq3cXAF8fKLNiaBJS?c=KNcxpdYVHMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

"My faith says trust God. My reality says I'm exhausted."A listener approaching her 29th birthday writes in with a question that many believers quietly wrestle with:What do you do when your faith and your reality seem to be telling two different stories?After years of investing in her career, serving faithfully in church, pursuing creative dreams, navigating racism in Christian spaces, and watching others move forward while she feels stuck, she's left wondering:Where is the fruit of all this effort?Why does faith feel harder than it used to?How do you stay hopeful when life isn't unfolding the way you imagined?Can you be honest with God about your disappointment?In this episode, we discuss racism in church spaces, career uncertainty, creative calling, loneliness, therapy, faith, and the freedom to bring your whole self before God—even the angry, frustrated, and grieving parts.This conversation is for anyone who feels like they've done "all the right things" and still finds themselves asking, "God, what are You doing?"Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!