John 5:10 "If ye keep my commandments ye shall abide in my love." He doesn't say...If you keep my commandments then I will love you" What is the difference between abiding in His love and His unconditional love that is always there for us?

John 14:18 "I will not leave you comfortless." How can we comfort our children, even when we aren't there?

How does Christ teach what unconditional love truly is and how can that doctrine help us revaluate how we punish and discipline our children?