When queerness is out of the closet, what does bisexuality even mean? For bisexual Iranian-American filmmaker Desiree Akhavan, the answer is . . . complicated. Cristen and Caroline talk to Desiree about fitting in, coming out and unlearning rom-com lies about female desire. All to find out: How do you fall in love with your own sexuality - even when you're not supposed to?

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Exiled from a world of engineered perfection, Demetria crash-lands into the brutal reality of the Outerlands. Distrusted by the defiant survivors, her only hope lies with a mysterious AGI, First Belle. But the secrets it holds could break her... or forge her into the hero she never knew she could be. 
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What do vision boards and Princess Diana conspiracy theories have in common? They both rely on a kind of magical thinking called proportionality bias. It's one of many cognitive biases that returning guest Amanda Montell connects to all the woo-woo and delulu going around these days. From the sunk cost fallacy of toxic relationships to the halo effect of female celebs to the declinism of everyday doomsday speak, Amanda makes even the most mindboggling and brainrotting realities of today's (mis)information overload more bearable.
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