How to Become a Successful Coach

What does yes look like? Why do so many men cruise through life at 60 percent? What is honour? Daniel Burgess calls it respect for the man beside you, and respect from the man above you.

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IN THIS EPISODE
Daniel Burgess is a men’s human behaviour expert. He and Rashid talk about why so many men cruise at 60 percent, the backpack of unexpressed emotion they spill onto the people they love, and what honour meant before we lost it.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Daniel
4:48 Comfort, and men cruising at 60 percent
6:39 The backpack full of rocks
10:05 Why men wait until the house is burning down
12:09 Honour, horizontal and vertical
21:37 The emotions men inherit
25:34 “I don’t have anger”
36:52 The desert, and who you are without the story

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Comfort is not peace. A man can cruise through life at 60 percent while the years go by.
2. Unexpressed emotion does not stay contained. Daniel calls it a backpack full of rocks, and it spills out as numbness and distance.
3. Honour is relational accountability. Respect for the man beside you, and respect from the man above you.
4. Anger sits on top of sadness. Most men insist they do not have anger, and until it moves, nothing underneath it can.
5. The story you built your identity on may not be true. Daniel believed his father had left and did not love him. He was wrong.

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Daniel Burgess is a men’s human behaviour expert and the founder of Kinsmen Global. He works with men on healthy masculine leadership, self trust and responsibility, built around twelve virtues of his own. He trained at the International Coaching Institute.

Find Daniel here:
Website: https://kinsmenglobal.co/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielroyburgess
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniel.burgess.35325
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielburgess1
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielroyburgess
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kinsmen.global
Daniel’s success story: https://youtu.be/IngFAxarAuQ

ABOUT THE HOST

Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry’s most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.

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WHERE TO FIND US
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Why do capable people decide they do not need anyone? Marejka Knigge on hyper-independence, and what it is protecting.

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IN THIS EPISODE
Marejka Knigge is a Transformational Mindset and Manifestation Coach who works with women building a life that is actually theirs. She and Rashid get into mindset as the internal map that drives the bus, why so many of us chase goals that were never ours, and the difference between coping, pushing through and swallowing the feelings, and capacity, growing big enough to hold what life brings.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Marejka
1:53 Why mindset became her work
3:11 Mindset as your internal map
6:13 The chasm she had to bridge
11:50 Hyper independence as protection
13:33 "It looks good on paper"
26:06 Coping or capacity
32:35 Starting with the body
45:02 Her three tips

KEY TAKEAWAYS
1. Hyper independence is protection. If you only rely on yourself, no one can hurt, reject or abandon you. The need for connection is still there underneath.
2. Some of the goals we chase are not ours. They are the needs other people put on us. The word "should" is usually the tell.
3. Coping is pushing through and swallowing the feelings. Capacity is building enough room in yourself to feel it and keep going.
4. Fear is doing its job. The nervous system pulls us back to safe, which is why most people talk themselves out of growth.
5. The path to your authentic self is not a straight line. It is a messy one, and compassion for the mess is what keeps you on it.

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Marejka Knigge is a transformational mindset and manifestation coach working with women who have spent years meeting everyone else's needs and are ready to ask what they actually want. She trained at the International Coaching Institute and combines mindset work with somatic practice and accountability.

Find Marejka here:
Website: https://empowerrise.com.au
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571866065934
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowerrisewithrakes
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@empowerrisewithrakes

ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.

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WHERE TO FIND US
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What does self-worth have to do with money? Antonietta Muraca says the two are the same conversation.

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IN THIS EPISODE
Antonietta Muraca spent her career as an accountant before becoming a coach who helps women build wealth and financial confidence. She and Rashid look at why so many capable women hold the family together and still keep their distance from the financial decisions, where our money story comes from, and why asking for the pay rise can feel harder than earning it. Antonietta also walks through the four buckets she teaches, starting with the first thousand dollars, and asks the question she leaves every woman with: what does your rich life actually look like?

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Antonietta
2:05 Why your net worth starts with self worth
3:09 The distance women keep from money decisions
8:27 Where your money story comes from
14:21 Too afraid to ask for the pay rise
15:30 The conversation Rashid had at home
19:37 Aligned love, aligned wealth
21:57 The four buckets
35:10 Define your rich life

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Money is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. What we believe we are capable of receiving shows up in what we have.
2. Many of us were taught to budget and never taught to invest. The further we sit from the financial decisions, the further we sit from what is possible.
3. Everyone carries a money story, usually inherited. Asking what you grew up learning about money is where it starts to change.
4. You do not need a lot to begin. Small, consistent steps compound, and it is never too late to start.
5. Antonietta's four buckets: an emergency fund, your super, your home, then investing beyond that. Start with the first one.

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Antonietta Muraca is a former accountant, now a coach working with women on wealth creation and financial confidence. Through her workshops she helps women rewrite the money story they inherited, take ownership of their finances, and define a rich life on their own terms.

Find Antonietta here:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/antonietta.muraca.1
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/antonietta.muraca
More on Antonietta: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5qXQyhKjeg

ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.

Meet Rashid: https://linktr.ee/rashidmubashir

WHERE TO FIND US
Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtobecomeasuccessfulcoach

Why do so many of us learn to be less of ourselves? Andrea Buck on the masks we wear, and the genius underneath.

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IN THIS EPISODE

Andrea Buck is a coach and a lifetime member of the International Coaching Institute. She and Rashid explore why we put the mask on, how the rules we absorb early become the rules we live by, and how to tell fear from your own voice.

CHAPTERS

0:00 Welcome, and meet Andrea
0:54 Why we put the mask on
1:46 The first seven years, and where shame begins
9:47 How do you know when you are being authentic?
15:08 The tram, and the body that said no
17:00 From authenticity to essence
27:19 Defining success on your own terms
39:10 Three ways to start today

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. The mask goes on early. Most of us learned that showing up as we are was not safe, so we adjusted to fit.
2. Fear and doubt are loud. Your essence is quieter, so hearing it takes slowing down.
3. There is a difference between the challenge of something that matters, and the drag of a life that is not yours.
4. Success defined by other people can be reached in full and still feel empty.
5. Andrea's three starts: ask five people what is special about you, notice when you lose track of time, and name what matters most to you.

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ABOUT THE GUEST

Andrea Buck is a coach and a lifetime member of the International Coaching Institute. She works with people in the creative industries who want a career that is successful and also their own. A burst brain aneurysm ended her career as a film producer. She rebuilt from the ground up, starting with the one thing she loved.

See more of Andrea: https://tci.rocks/andreabuck-successstory

Website: https://www.successfulcreative.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/successfulcreative_with_andrea/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrea.buck.393/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-buck-03bb8215/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SuccessfulCreative-Coaching

ABOUT THE HOST

Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.

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WHERE TO FIND US

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Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in love? Remi Pearson, founder of The Coaching Institute, goes deep on attachment.
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IN THIS EPISODE
Remi Pearson is the founder of The Coaching Institute and one of the pioneers of coaching in Australasia. In one of the show's most profound conversations, she and Rashid go deep into attachment: why we love the way we do, how the patterns we formed as children quietly run our adult relationships, and what it takes to move from anxious or avoidant to secure.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Remi
2:25 What an attachment style really is
9:59 Anxious and avoidant: the two sides of the dance
14:59 The protest and retreat cycle
37:07 The first steps to changing your pattern
47:29 Secure attachment: feeling okay within yourself
52:56 The swimming pool: a picture of the dynamic
1:01:37 The loneliness beneath the protest, and where healing begins

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Your attachment style is not who you are. It is a pattern conditioned in childhood that runs over your relationships, and patterns can change.
2. Most relationship conflict is a dance between anxious and avoidant: one protests, the other retreats, and each move triggers the other.
3. The behaviour on the surface, the protesting or the shutting down, is a protection. Underneath it is usually fear, and a loneliness we are trying not to feel.
4. Security is not indifference. It is feeling okay within yourself regardless, and staying present instead of protesting or withdrawing.
5. Real change comes from staying through the storms, and being with the parts of you that panic rather than acting them out.

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Remi Pearson is the founder of The Coaching Institute, one of the world's leading coaching schools, and a pioneer of coaching in Australasia. The author of seven bestselling books, she has spent decades researching human behaviour and mentoring the coaches who shaped the industry. She has been Rashid's mentor for over twelve years.

Find Remi here:
Website: www.remipearson.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearson/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Remi.Sharon.Pearson
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RemiSharonPearson

ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.
Meet Rashid: https://linktr.ee/rashidmubashir

WHERE TO FIND US
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How do you heal the hidden wounds secretly damaging your relationships? Relationship Coach Marc Wiesner has spent years helping couples find their way back.
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IN THIS EPISODE
Marc Wiesner is a Relationship Coach from Melbourne who helps couples rebuild trust and reconnect after years of conflict. He and Rashid explore why couples fall out of love, the three phases every relationship moves through, and the idea that your partner is a mirror, reflecting the parts of yourself you have yet to meet. A tender, honest look at how struggle can become the doorway to growth.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Marc
1:50 The three phases every relationship moves through
3:50 Your relationship as a mirror of your disowned self
7:14 Why triggers are turning points, not just conflict
9:14 Attachment styles, and how they shape trust
22:31 Meeting your own needs, and what to lean on a partner for
25:39 Co-regulation: you do not have to do it alone
27:45 Healing the power struggle, and passing it on

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Every relationship moves through phases. Most couples get stuck in the power struggle, and that is where the growth is waiting.
2. Your partner is a mirror. What triggers you often points to the parts of yourself you have disowned.
3. Trust breaks less in the dramatic moments and more in the small ones: broken promises, not following through.
4. Attachment styles are formed early, but they are not a life sentence. With awareness, they can be healed.
5. The deepest self-love is being with yourself in the hard moments, not just the happy ones. Heal it in yourself, and you pass it on to your children.

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Marc Wiesner is a Relationship Coach based in Melbourne who helps couples move from conflict and disconnection back to trust, closeness and love. Trained at the International Coaching Institute, he helps individuals and couples heal the patterns that keep them stuck, so they can build a relationship that transforms their family too.
Find Marc here:
Website: https://couplesmastercoaching.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcwiesner/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marc.wiesner.7
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marc-wiesner-coach/

ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.
Meet Rashid: https://linktr.ee/rashidmubashir

WHERE TO FIND US
Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtobecomeasuccessfulcoach

How do so many capable managers never become leaders? Leadership and Performance Consultant Mary Jensen has 40 years of answers.
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IN THIS EPISODE
Mary Jensen has spent 40 years in leadership, the good, the bad and the ugly. She rose to financial controller by 25, ran mergers and acquisitions, and was, by her own admission, a control freak and a perfectionist. Then everything changed. She and Rashid unpack why so many capable managers never become leaders, why leadership is an inside job, and how the patterns we form in childhood quietly shape the way we lead.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome, and meet Mary
1:32 Leadership is being, not doing
3:21 From control freak to leader
4:09 Manager or leader? The difference most people miss
10:00 The one thing that changes everything: choice
18:20 Why nobody asks for personal development
22:32 Inspiring buy-in: the reticular activating system
37:44 Psychological safety, and kindness as a tool

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Leadership is not a set of tasks. It is who you choose to be. It lives in the being, not the doing.
2. Being promoted for your skills makes you a manager, not a leader. Management wants to control. Leadership wants to grow people, and grows you too.
3. It is not what happens that shapes you, it is what you choose to think about it. The power, and the leadership, is in the choice.
4. Nobody asks for personal development, because nobody wants to feel broken. Meet people at what they want, and the transformation comes as the bonus.
5. Kindness is not weakness. It is one of the most practical tools a leader has.
   

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ABOUT THE GUEST
Mary Jensen is a leadership and performance consultant, and a former professional coach and lifetime member of the International Coaching Institute. After three decades in senior finance roles, she turned to the inner work of leadership and has spent the last decade training leaders. Named ICG Leadership Coach of the Year in 2020, her message is simple: leadership is not something you do, it is someone you become.

Find Mary here:
Website: https://mpowerservices.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mpowerservices_/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mary.jensen1
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-jensen-mindset/

ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.
Meet Rashid: https://linktr.ee/rashidmubashir

WHERE TO FIND US
Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtobecomeasuccessfulcoach

Real people. Real stories. Real success.
The truth about becoming a successful coach.
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ABOUT THE SHOW
How to Become a Successful Coach is a new podcast hosted by Rashid Mubashir, sharing the real stories behind becoming a successful coach. Honest conversations with everyday people who felt the quiet pull toward coaching and followed it. The truths, the challenges, the struggles and the breakthroughs that made it all worth it. New episodes every fortnight.

WHAT TO EXPECT
Honest interviews, not highlight reels
Everyday people who started exactly where you are
The real story of how they built a coaching life of their own
A new conversation every fortnight

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ABOUT THE HOST
Your host, Rashid Mubashir, first came to coaching as a student searching for something more. He became one of the industry's most trusted trainers, and today is Co-Founder and Head Trainer of the International Coaching Institute.
Meet Rashid: https://linktr.ee/rashidmubashir

WHERE TO FIND US
Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtobecomeasuccessfulcoach