HOW YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE OR DESTROY YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE

What’s up, everybody? Today, I’m bringing you a little solo episode with a lesson that I think is really going to help you become limitless

In this lesson, I want to talk about SELF-CONFIDENCE. So many of us — myself included — struggle with it. Especially in this world where we’re constantly striving for clicks and likes, it’s so easy to get discouraged and let our self-confidence break. These thoughts of self-doubt and fear come into our minds, and we build them up until they become our beliefs. And if we’re not careful, those limiting beliefs will ultimately defeat us.

We’ve got to find a way to overcome self-doubt. But here’s what I’ve found out: You don’t overcome self-doubt. You have to build something bigger. You need to develop self-confidence that is bigger, stronger, and more powerful than your fear and self-doubt. But how do we do it?

Today, I’m sharing the biggest thing you can do to build strong self-confidence. I’m going to teach you how to counteract your limiting beliefs and use the power of your thoughts to create the SELF-CONFIDENCE you need to WIN.

Before I dive in, I want you to know something: This IS possible for you. You can STOP being limited by your negative thoughts and self-doubt. You weren’t born with those thoughts — You were born believing you were destined for great things. And today, you can begin building confidence in yourself again. Let’s get started.

SELF-DOUBT COMES FROM OUTSIDE YOU

Before I dive into the biggest thing you can do to build self-confidence, I think it’s important that we fully understand self-doubt. Here’s the thing: Thoughts of self-doubt do not originate inside your head. You were not born feeling discouraged and defeated. You were not born doubting your self-worth and feeling like you aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or worthy enough. You were born with innate goodness, and you had all the self-confidence you needed.

The problem is that as we grow up and interact with other people, these negative thoughts of self-doubt come into our minds, and they usually show up early in our lives. Maybe they came from our parents when they said things like, “Don’t do that. Be quiet. Sit down. Be a good boy. Be a good girl.” Maybe they came from a school teacher who criticized us in front of the class. Or, perhaps, they came from the other kids who teased us on the playground and said mean things. The point is: Those negative thoughts did not come from you. They came from a source outside of you.

But here’s the thing: Our brains are powerful. When a thought comes in, your brain will automatically start trying to prove that it’s true. You will begin recalling events in your life when that belief was true to support that belief.

I think of it as a table. The thought that comes into your mind is the top of the table, and your brain starts building legs and supports under the table to support it. You start thinking of moments in your life when you weren’t smart enough, pretty enough, in the right religion, the right height, the right race, or in the right culture. And each time your brain finds another memory of a time when you felt like you weren’t enough, you build another leg on the table. You support it more and more until you can’t move it at all. At that point, it’s a full belief. And you’re going to have trouble tearing it back down.