Guest on the line: Dr. Mashudu David Mbedzi, marriage counsellor and author of the book titled “Married but Intimately Divorced” and “Wrong: Husband, Wife, and Partner”.

How to change Negative Thoughts into Positive Actions?

 

- Quiet the negative inner voice

- Learn to cope under negative pressure

- Are negative thoughts affecting every area of your life?

- Get to know your inner child (sub consciousness) e.g. emotional memories or emotional pain

 

*Negative thoughts can take many forms (also called 10 distorted thinking patterns)

 

- polarised thinking (e.g. I have failed)

 

- Overgeneralisation (this always happens to me; I will never find anyone; I always have bad luck)

 

- Mental filtering (When I had a business, money, friends, wonderful partner....I was only focussing on.....(stop self-blame)

 

- Mind reading (When my partner introduced me to friends/family I was sitting thinking they hate me)

 

- Catastrophizing (am going to lose my clients, my job)

 

Emotional reasoning (The time my ex- manager suggested I apply for a better position.... I thought I will not get the job anyway...?)

 

"Should statements"...( I should be waking up early. l...Should be... now I blame myself)

 

- Personalizing & Blame (I can't do anything right...I must have done something wrong...( delete Inner child)

 

- change Negativity to Neutrality (This is impossible but let's try a different approach....)

 

- be brutally honest with yourself (identify areas to change)

 

- STOP feeling sorry for yourself

 

 

How to change Negative Thoughts into Positive Actions?

 

- Quiet the negative inner voice

- Learn to cope under negative pressure

- Are negative thoughts affecting every area of your life?

- Get to know your inner child (sub consciousness) e.g. emotional memories or emotional pain

 

*Negative thoughts can take many forms (also called 10 distorted thinking patterns)

 

- polarised thinking (e.g. I have failed)

 

- Overgeneralisation (this always happens to me; I will never find anyone; I always have bad luck)

 

- Mental filtering (When I had a business, money, friends, wonderful partner....I was only focussing on.....(stop self-blame)

 

- Mind reading (When my partner introduced me to friends/family I was sitting thinking they hate me)

 

- Catastrophizing (am going to lose my clients, my job)

 

Emotional reasoning (The time my ex- manager suggested I apply for a better position.... I thought I will not get the job anyway...?)

 

"Should statements"...( I should be waking up early. l...Should be... now I blame myself)

 

- Personalizing & Blame (I can't do anything right...I must have done something wrong...( delete Inner child)

 

- change Negativity to Neutrality (This is impossible but let's try a different approach....)

 

- be brutally honest with yourself (identify areas to change)

 

- STOP feeling sorry for yourself

 

 

Guest on the line: Dr. Mashudu David Mbedzi, marriage counsellor and author of the book titled “Married but Intimately Divorced” and “Wrong: Husband, Wife, and Partner”.