Many of you have asked me, “How do I cultivate confidence? How can my children become confident?” In order to cultivate confidence, you have to start by asking yourself: “What gets in the way of confidence?”

To lay the foundation for being confident, you have to consider what seemingly harmless questions you are asking yourself that are actually undermining your self-belief. I call these “crappy questions,” and they usually sound something like: “What’s wrong with me? Is this normal? Why is my life so hard?”

These questions make you into a victim rather than the leader of your life. They trigger shame rather than understanding.

You can respond to the shame storm with compassion. Remind yourself that everybody struggles. Nobody is perfect. There’s no need for the Trauma Olympics.

Listen in to this episode, which originally aired in 2019, as I talk about how you can move away from shame and toward confidence by embracing vulnerability and self-compassion. I’ll share some of my favorite affirmations for cultivating confidence, as well as some tips for taking small steps toward a more confident you.

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