Today’s episode is intended to be a lovely cool splash of water on a fatigued face. Revitalising tired daters with three new things to try. 

Three steps for a dating fresh-up.

1. Re-empower yourself. Pick a date two to six weeks from now and plan something you will LOVE. Until then, date with renewed focus. Try the steps below to approach things slightly differently and see what happens. Once you hit your treat day, take a break from dating for any length of time that feels good. A day, a week, a month. You are in command of your precious time.

2. Give your profile a fresh lick of paint. One new picture that captures you FEELING good, not just looking good. A moment when you’re in your element, doing something you love. If you don’t have a photo like this, think of someone/something that lights you up and take a few selfies while you’re in that energy. And then add some words/a voice note/a video sharing something authentic and meaningful that you’ve never shared before on a dating app. Something that excites you about the future that you’d love to share with someone. A shining beacon of who you are and what you’re looking for.

3. Start conversations that genuinely interest you. Write some questions or use any of the ones below. They’re designed to spark more enriching and illuminating connection.

- Describe a time you got the giggles and couldn't stop laughing.

 - What's your favourite time of day and why?

 - If you could go back in time and relive 12 hours of your life, when would you choose?

 - What are your favourite and least favourite things about dating? 

-  If you never had to work again, how would you spend your time?

 Which celebrity would you most like to be stuck in a lift with for three hours?

 - If you could choose five guaranteed qualities in a soulmate, which would you choose?

 - What would you love to happen during the next 10 years?

 - What's the most inspiring place you've ever visited?

 - What's the best advice you've ever received?

I hope experimenting with these dating fresh-ups is re-energising. A lil pep in your dating step. I love the expression “angels can fly because they take themselves lightly”. How can you make the next week lighter, softer, easier and more fun for yourself?

Wishing you ease, delight and really great connections.

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